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Should I Take my Ex-Boyfriend Back after He Dumped Me?

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Sometimes when relationships end, the person who ended the partnership, has a change of heart and later decides that this move away from their ex was a mistake. Perhaps, the breakup was a hasty or emotionally charged decision that they confirmed was a mistake once they had cleared their heads and began to think logically. Other times, they find out how rough the single life can sometimes be and want to return to the safety of something familiar. Either way, the person who got dumped has a decision to make as to whether or not they want to accept their ex back into their lives on that level. Should you take your ex-boyfriend back after he broke up with you? Well, that depends on you, your situation, and what you want for your future.

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Get to the Root Cause of Why He Wants You Again

The first thing that you should assess, even before whether or not you want to take him back, is why did he break up with you in the first place? Sometimes, his reasoning for leaving you will reveal more than what you want from a relationship because it can often indicate if he is truly serious or not.

Think about it. If he broke up with you because he wanted to go out with a bunch of different girls, have things changed in his mind to make him want to be monogamous with you now? If he was nervous about commitment on a deeper level, has he suddenly become Mr. Ready to Marry during your time apart?

He might very well truly want to be with you but he could also just be lonely or having trouble meeting other women and so came crawling back. What are his reasons for wanting to be with you again, if things were so bad that he dumped you in the first place?

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You cannot just automatically assume that he is in it for the long haul and really does want a relationship with you again, even if he says he does. He could be just as confused about things as you are and just be grasping for some level of stability.

Yes, there is the possibility that he truly realizes that he made a mistake by letting you go. There is the ‘grass is always greener’ scenario in life. Perhaps he feared commitment before, but recognized that the dating scene wasn’t all that great, and so needs to get back together.

Another point, is that he might have gotten caught up in the emotional turmoil of the break up. He dumped you for some reason, perhaps was upset about something involving the two of you, and then cooled down later after the damage was done. Now, pride kicks in, and it takes him a while to gather the courage to ask to get back together. He was impulsive and broke up with you for a frivolous reason.

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What Has Changed?

There are always reasons for breakups. Sometimes they’re major and other times they are quite minor and silly to think about. However, no matter what the problem was, if there is not a solution, then you are simply getting back into a broken relationship. If that’s the case, it’s best to just forget about him and move on.

Think about what you’re relationship’s problems were. Was it equally split between the two of you or was he the main culprit for the issues that popped up? If cheating was involved (especially on his part) then a vast majority of the time it is a very bad idea to get back together.

People always pronounce that they are going to change and they may even show strides towards making that a reality…BUT…the truth of the matter is that change is extremely difficult for people to make. Change isn’t just a superficial paint job to cover up the mistakes and problems of the past, rather, it is something which needs to occur on a fundamental level in order to truly be effective.

With that in mind, question what about your relationship has changed and what will change for the better if you do decide to take him back. Things don’t go back to being the same just because you want them to.

In fact, it’s almost as if you are creating a new relationship from scratch, since the old one was obviously broken in some way or multiple ways. Be level-headed and logical to avoid falling into the trap of chasing what you had in the past together and if you cannot see a viable future, then it is time to accept the breakup once and for all.

If you decide to start talking to him again, about the possibility of reconciling the relationship, and you’re getting the vibe that his motives aren’t what he says they are…it’s a valid reason to end it and move on with your life. Changes need to materialize at some point and it’ll be a waste of your time, to simply get stuck in the same rut again, that caused the original split.

 

What Do You Want?

Ultimately, you must decide what you want for your life and what type of relationship you want to be in. Nostalgia and those intense feelings you may still have for him are not enough to make a relationship work. Nor do they mean that getting back with him is the best decision for you and your life.

It’s really tough to let someone you love go but when it comes to dysfunctional relationships, it truly is the best choice to make.

If you don’t have a clear picture of what you want to do with your life, or that he should definitely be the guy you want to be with for the long haul; it is a good idea to not take him back. This is not a decision to be taken lightly or to make impulsively, as getting back into a bad relationship or one that has run its course, will lead to bad results and waste large potions of you time.

Think long and hard about this, don’t be in an emotional state, weigh the pros and cons, and eventually a clear picture will emerge. If one doesn’t then you probably shouldn’t get back together.

Where do you see things in five years? Both in your life and career, but also for the type of relationship that you want. Can he actually fit into this scenario? If you want marriage and kids and he doesn’t, is it going to be worth fixing this boyfriend/girlfriend scenario? Shouldn’t you instead spend your time getting your life the way you want it, so that when you meet the right guy, everything is set?

It can be tough because of these emotional attachments that we have to people. In the short-term, it hurts like hell to let them go, because they can supply strong positive feelings when they’re around. The problem is, in the long-term, it can derail what you want from life if they aren’t the right person. The right person when you’re 20, might be completely wrong for you at 27 years old. The idea is to mature and grow together, if he isn’t capable, then what’s the point?

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Will My Ex-Boyfriend Come Back if I Stop Chasing?

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A break up happens and you’re not satisfied with this result. You want him. You want him back, just like how it used to be. So, you chase. The more you chase the further he pushes away, it seems. As such, you draw the conclusion, that if you stop chasing your ex-boyfriend he will then come back. Interesting theory, but will it work if you give him space? What are the potential outcomes for such time apart? Chasing is almost never the right answer, especially when its already proven to be ineffective, but will he want to get back together if you let up?

 

Is Chasing Driving Him Away?

Possibly. To what extent depends, though, one could argue that it certainly isn’t helping matters at all.  On the one hand, he may not want to get back together regardless of being chased or not. On the other hand, it might be the chasing that is giving him doubts.

Therefore, the best course of action to take is one of inaction, at least in terms of bothering an ex-boyfriend. The broken relationship needs time to cool off and that’s near impossible to do when one party, keeps running after the attention of the other.

People often think that doing nothing is somehow a bad move, because we always feel the need to try and ‘fix’ a situation. What’s important to understand is that breakups usually aren’t as simple of a fix as just badgering the other person non-stop until you’re magically back together. NO!

Instead, there is often a time apart, when the former couple can gain clarity about what they each want for their lives as individuals and then move forward with or without each other. This time apart is usually enforced by the application of the No Contact Rule which allows the emotional turmoil of the breakup to settle down a lot before any potential reconciliation takes place.

Also, chasing in itself, simply isn’t attractive. It can come off as really desperate, even if one is desperate, it’s not an attractive quality to the man in this scenario.

If chasing isn’t working, then, one needs to give the guy some space. That’s clearly his wish to not be pestered about getting back together, at every moment. This doesn’t mean that he will forget you, it’s just a respite from being in constant contact.

Why Does He Want Time and Space Apart?

Well, put the shoe on the other foot for a second. Imagine some guy that you’d broken up with, were trying to talk, text, and see you at every possible moment. Maybe, you’d be willing to try and work things out, but he won’t give you the time you need to figure out what’s the best path for you to take.

Wouldn’t you get annoyed at some point? Even if you still had strong feelings and the inclination to reconcile with him, the act would wear thin, eventually.

That’s the same situation that the ex-boyfriend is currently facing. Not only does he have his whole work, school, or whatever other life to worry about. Now, he also has an ex-girlfriend vying for his limited attention.

There’s no way he can gain clarity about what he wants in terms of potentially fixing the broken relationship, if he has his old girlfriend, trying to be around all of the time. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all.

 

Say the Chasing Stops, Will He Want to Get Back Together?

There’s no guarantee, but the odds will certainly be better than, continuing to try and force him back into the relationship. As I always say on this site, there is never a 100% chance that a relationship can be salvaged, all you can do it play the best odds.

So, what’s more likely, him coming back after you let him have time apart OR continuing to chase him…which has already been failing?

That was rhetorical, but the answer is the first option mentioned above.

Chasing someone isn’t going to wear them out and make them submit. It’s going to trigger frustration and make them want to have nothing to do with the person, who won’t let them be.

So, the best course to take is one in which, he is given space for a time. To where he feels like he’s not being constantly pressured and can make a clear decision about whether or not he wants to get back together.

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Will My Ex-Boyfriend Come Back if Given Space?

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There are times when a break up happens, that one party almost immediately begins chasing the other, in order to get back together with them. In this case, the boyfriend, asks his ex-girlfriend to stop and give him space. He wants time apart from having to deal with the broken relationship. Why? What will happen if he is given this time apart? Will he come running back? Will he find someone else? Will giving him space make him miss me? These are all very common questions and worries when dealing with a break up. But should he get the space he desires or is that a mistake?

 

 

Is Space What is Needed?

Potentially. It is very difficult to get someone to change their mind about something, when they’re feeling crowded or pressured, by an outside force. This can be especially true, when that person is someone who you’ve recently broken up with.

Time apart from one another allows the emotions of both sides to calm down quite a bit and allows for more clarity about how they each want to proceed with their own lives. This is why something like the No Contact Rule can be so darn effective, as it let’s people decompress from the relationship, and think about what could possibly come next.

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Many people have a fear of giving an ex their space and time apart because they think that they will forget all about them. That isn’t necessarily true and time apart can actually have the opposite effect on a person. Many times, this time away from one another can trigger feelings and emotions to make they guy miss his ex-girlfriend.

Bottom line: if he asked for space, give it to him. Don’t let your own emotions or ideas about what is best for him, try to supersede his current wishes. At some point, he’ll be ready to communicate once again, or move on from the relationship if that’s what he wants.

 

Why Does He Need Me to Leave Him Alone?

In all likelihood, he has plenty of other things happening in his life beyond just a breakup. Work, school, family, etc. So, having his ex-girlfriend consistently or constantly vying for his attention can be draining. Especially, when the break up is still a fresh wound.

As a man, I want to be left alone a good chunk of the time, even when I’m in a good relationship with a woman. Never mind when I’m trying to figure out what course of action I should take with my life, after a breakup has occurred.

Think about it: how can someone ever miss someone else, if that person is always around or texting them about the past?

There is nothing more irritating to us, then having our girlfriend or ex bothering us when we’ve asked them, to let us be. Like, super super irritating.

Let him have his space.

 

But Will He Come Back?

He’s more likely to, than if his wishes are not being respected. Obviously, when dealing with human beings, there’s no 100% guarantee that their definitely going to try to get back with their ex. I mean, there are so many variables about him, his personality, and what he wants for his life that only he knows about.

However, one has to play the odds when trying to get an ex-boyfriend to come back. In this scenario, is him being left alone for the time being, going to increase those odds? Almost certainly yes.

Desperation isn’t an attractive quality and continually chasing a guy is only going to serve to push him further away. Meaning, he will be less attracted to a woman who chasing him hard instead of giving him space.

What Do I Do During this Period of Time?

He needs his space to figure things out. You should do the same.

When time is spent apart from one another, emotions settle down a bit, and one can think about things clearly. Including, if you actually want him back or is it just the powerful emotions that have been stirred up post-breakup?

I know it seems like a silly question to ask at this point, but there are plenty of people who come to realize that a particular relationship wasn’t the best for them and there lives. This realization could only take place during a period of no contact.

What should you do after a breakup? Focus on you and what you want for yourself.

Take time to grieve the relationship and how it ended but don’t obsess over it. I always have given myself a set time during the day where I could just feel bad about a break up. BUT I made sure to limit it to just that time.

I would offset that ‘bad feelings time’, with as much positivity as I could experience throughout the day. I would listen to motivational speeches, meditate, read books, exercise, watch comedies, laugh with friends…anything that made me feel better and not wallow in my emotions.

This should be a time of self-improvement and self-realization. Figure out how to address your weaknesses. What about the relationship could’ve been improved? How could you have been a better girlfriend? Anything? Even if this relationship is indeed over for good, use this as a learning experience.

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How Long Should He Be Given Space?

Give it a week or two before testing the waters. If he communicates first, good. If you text him and he still doesn’t seem ready. Wash and repeat the process of giving him a few weeks and then communicating with him.

At a certain point in time, both parties should have a clear idea about whether or not they might consider getting back with one another.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Naturally, we must give the other person space. But when we have allowed the situation to breathe for a bit, we’ll want to reach out and see what he’s wanting to do.

Texting fulfills this need, think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

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How to Get Over Your Ex-Boyfriend Sleeping with Someone Else

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After a break up it isn’t uncommon for people to still have feelings for their exes. Now, these feelings can become intensified by the thoughts of their ex-boyfriends or girlfriends being romantically and/or sexually involved with someone else (sometimes this is all in their imagination and their ex is still single!). Once you have spent so much time with one person and have had an extremely close and intimate relationship with them, it can feel absolutely awful to see them developing that connection with another woman. For some folks, this scenario can absolutely become an unbearable reality from which that have a difficult time letting go and moving on from. How can one accept their ex-boyfriend sleeping with someone new and move forward with their life?

 

 

 

Jealousy and Ego

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Sexual jealousy and emotional turmoil is pretty interesting when we think about an ex. Like, when the two of you met, your ex-boyfriend probably wasn’t a virgin (maybe he was) but we tend not to have the same negative obsessiveness about the people that he had sex with before you. It really doesn’t cross our radars as much because he is, after all with you now. The people in the past, prior to your relationship, really aren’t that big of a deal.

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When the breakup takes place and he starts to sleep with other women, why does it suddenly bother you more? Him having sex with someone new doesn’t diminish you as a woman. It doesn’t negate the previous relationship that you had with him, as it’s already taken place in the past and played out fully. In reality, what is there to be bothered about? Much of this problem occurs when comparison between yourself and the new women come about. Once you start to think of yourself in competition with someone else, how are you ever going to let go of these intense emotions?

There is also this extreme sense of ownership that one tends to get with an ex-boyfriend. This faulty notion of him, ‘being mine’, which is completely false. People are not possessions. They are independent beings, who may choose to become involved in a mutually beneficial relationship, with another person. There was a time after all, before the two of you had ever met, and he was seeing other women. Would you care about it then? No. Why? He was just some random guy and not something that was ‘yours’…you didn’t have the illusion of possession.


Get to the Core

One way to deal with and get past the emotional jealousy that one can feel when thinking about an ex-boyfriend sleeping with another woman is to reduce it to its base. Utilize the reductionist mode of thinking to break these thoughts down into clinical terms. What is actually occurring? A man sticks his penis inside a vagina, where is skin comes into contact with her. Friction occurs from thrusting in and out until finally there is an intense spasming and some goo shoots out. That’s it. That’s what we get so many bad feelings about.

Is it really all that upsetting that he is doing that with someone else?

Once you have taken the thought of the act itself down to the base, begin to do the same with the emotions. How is this sexual act by two people (who aren’t you) harming me? Does him having sex, reduce your value as a woman? Does this negate your previous relationship? Does your ex-boyfriend having a new lover somehow stop you from finding another romance for yourself? Will you even care about this in six months? A year? Ten years?

The pain and anguish in the short-term occurs because of the attachment we’ve grown towards that person plus the narrative in our minds about them and the previous relationship. All these thoughts and memories play back on a constant loop and stir up emotions that we’ve have attached to them. This has a snowball effect, the more we think about it and attach emotions to them, the stronger these memories and feelings become. We completely buy into whatever story our minds have created about a situation whether it has any actual basis in reality or not.

What this Boils Down to

The key is not to just grit it out or cope with these feelings. The key is to become aware of them as they bubble up and not let them take control of yourself. Recognize the anger or other feeling when it arises. Observe it. Are you that anger? Do you have to let it ‘become’ who you are? Can you observe this feeling, recognize where it is coming from, feel it, and then let it go? Don’t become a victim in your own mind, even if it’s justified, as it will only serve to create another story in your head which will loop continuously and drag you down with it. It is easier to get angry or depressed about these things but letting them go is a much more effective way to deal with them.

 

 

 

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Is It Ever Too Late to Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back?

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As time passes after a break up, a thought will gather in many people’s heads, it’s a question to whether or not it is still possible to get their ex-boyfriend back. It’s been a few months, is it too late to reconcile and begin anew? Once a split happens the drift starts to begin and the person you were once dating, now has possibly moved in a different direction and has a new set of wants, needs, etc. The problem lies in the fact, that one party has started the transition out of the old relationship, while the other is still wanting to re-kindle things. When exactly is it too late to get back with an ex-boyfriend? Is it ever?

 

When is it too Late?

On some level, it really ‘never’ is too late to get back together with an ex. That being said, it’s usually limited to specific circumstances, once an extreme amount of time has occurred since the break up. There are people who have broken up for years and then gotten back together, so, yes it’s possible. Is it a sound idea to do so? That depends.

The old relationship is done. So, even if you get back together with a boyfriend, it’s a completely new thing (albeit familiar). Don’t make the mistake of thinking that things will be the same as they were before, they won’t. People change and mature constantly. Things and people that interested you ten years ago, probably do not now. This kind of shift can also take place over the course of months, if someone is really determined to change fundamental things about their lives. Just keep in mind before pursuing that any underlying issues of the old relationship would have to be resolved and that it’s not going to be the same relationship, just a new incarnation.

 

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These ‘long periods of time in between the two relationships’ relationships are possible but know that the longer the time, the more unlikely it becomes. I would be really hard pressed to even consider getting back together with girls that I dated years ago. I couldn’t picture it working out, now that my life and desires are so completely different. A period of months isn’t insurmountable but years might be.

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Why?

Get down to the nitty gritty of your motivations. Why exactly do you want to get back together with your ex-boyfriend? Is it really about him and how great he is or does it have more to do with your general unhappiness, loneliness, lack of direction in your life, or some other factor?

What about the situation has changed that makes you feel that the relationship will work out this time around, when it just got done failing on the first try? What’s really different? Is it really anything or is this just chasing after the past and your fond memories of it?

It can be really tough to move on, especially when there isn’t a clear path in our lives as to where exactly we are supposed to move on to. It is a confusing time and our brain makes it worse by reminding us of a time when it felt as if things made much more sense. Sometimes, despite all of the emotional evidence to the contrary, it is actually the best course of action for our lives to simply move on. It is the correct decision to let go of the past and not try to patch things up with our exes.

All of this wanting to get back together with your ex-boyfriend might be a masking of a general lack in your life as a whole or uncertainty about what it is you truly want. As such, one can often chase after the wrong things in life, if you don’t get in touch with what you really want.

 

When Should You Consider Moving On?

The first point that I’d say, is that, after a deep search of yourself and consideration of what you want from it. If after all of that, you have serious doubts about getting back together, then that is a very noticeable sign that it is time to move forward alone.

If all the signs are pointing to just being unhappy about where you are currently in your life, then things should become about you and not focused on trying to get back together with someone else. You are the foundation, happiness in relationships can only stem from you being content with what is.

Also, if you’ve been trying to get back with an ex for a while, exhausted your strategies, and gotten nowhere…it might be time to hang it up for now. That doesn’t mean that it is never possible to get back together with them, just not at this point in time. They may want to go a completely different route with their lives and that route may not include you. Accept their decision, it’s their life, and their choice to make.

The third point is, if this trying to get back together with or chasing of your ex-boyfriend is hurting your life, it is probably time to let go. You cannot sacrifice your well-being based on some vague notion of reconciliation with a person who might not want to reconcile. Don’t allow your brain to concoct some narrative, where it’s some great tragedy that this person didn’t want you back or that it’s somehow romantic to chase after someone for years…it isn’t.

Things in life change and people flow in and out of our lives all of the time. That’s life, that’s how it works for everyone. At some point, you can no longer resist change, and have to just go with the flow.

It really is never ‘too late’ to get back with an ex, depending on the situation. There are a ton of variables that will effect your current situation and the likelihood of such a reconciliation taking place. However, despite the odds, there are perfectly legitimate reasons for letting go and moving forward without them too. Take the time to truly figure out what it is that you want.

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My Ex-Boyfriend Blocked Me on Facebook (Social Media)

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Alright, so, a breakup has occurred and at least for a while, the lines of communication were still open. Now, something has happened and for some reason(s), your ex-boyfriend has blocked your account on Facebook, Whatsapp, Snapchat, Instagram, or another social media platform. What do you do now? Why did this happen? I suppose for the younger generation of lovers, getting blocked on one of these social media sites is a big deal, as such I’ll have to address it in this post. I’m am going to write this in a more generalized style, so that it’s applicable to all of these kinds of sites/apps and not just Facebook as a standalone issue.

 

Is This Actually a Huge Problem?

On this website, I don’t usually take the approach of telling people to always get back with their ex, nor do I tell them to pursue at all costs. The reasoning behind this approach, is that, I know what an emotional state I was in after past break ups. I would have done just about anything to get one of my ex-girlfriends back, at those points in time, even when it wasn’t the best option for my life. The emotions made me want them back much more than any logical justification, that I could come up with in my head.

This being the case, I must first put forth the question, is this actually a huge deal that you were blocked on social media? Is this upsetting you more than it actually should? Is this an indicator that you should prepare to move forward with your life, even if there is still a chance to get back together with your ex-boyfriend? Yes, this can absolutely hurt bad, in the short-term. Plus, it’s difficult to imagine things getting better while you’re experiencing the breakup in the here and now. However, learning to let go is a major part of the healing process and a part of being in relationships.

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Maybe, your ex-boyfriend blocking you on Facebook or Instagram, can aid in the healing process. Being bombarded by someone’s image everyday, seeing what they’re up to, and thinking about them thereafter only serves to reinforce the mental feedback loop of expectation. Your brain expects to see them and can then cause negative emotions when that feedback doesn’t take place.

Add to the fact, that social media is ultimately not real life. People can build images and personas of themselves on there, that has no actual reflection in reality. Seeing the images, status updates, and all of the rest of the stuff can just stir up jealousy and make things in the aftermath of the relationship worse…even make it more difficult to get back together.

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What Was the Reason that He Blocked Your Facebook?

Why did he block you? It is possible that this was merely a short, over-reaction on his part. It may be a short-lived time in the penalty box, so to speak, before he reverses his decision and unblocks you. This could have been done because he was just really mad at you about something or he is having trouble dealing with the break up and doesn’t want to see anything that reminds him of you at this time.

There is also the other possibility, that this is for the long haul. He blocked you because at this point in time, he doesn’t want you involved in his life and the new direction that he is taking it in.

There probably isn’t a way of knowing if this is a shorter-term or longer-term situation, one will have to wait it out until the picture becomes clearer. I believe that it’s always best to prepare for the longer term situation, in which, you have to grow and learn to live your life again as an individual…and not as a part of the now broken relationship. Things may get fixed down the line, but it’s a good idea to plan for a likely scenario, so that you’re not just floating through life being lost and with no direction.

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What was the Severity of the Block?

Was it simply Facebook that he blocked you on? If it was only on that platform, that’s a good sign, that it could lean towards the him being upset side of things. Or was this an across the board communications ban? Did it include the phone, Instagram, Whatsapp, and Snapchat? If it was an across the board block, it’s probably going to be a while, that one will be stuck in the realm of No Contact.

If it was only on one platform, like Facebook, it is best to let things be at the moment. Don’t overreact and push him further away by trying to bombard him with messages or by getting upset that he blocked you. Not all is lost in this scenario, as you still have lines of communication open…just lay off of the messaging for a while. Take this time to continue to improve your emotional situation and get a clear head about things.

On the flip side, if all lines of communication have been cut off, there is nothing you can really do in the intermediate term. You will have to take a wait and see approach, as to whether you might be able to talk with him sometime down the line. He may be really pissed or hurt by something you did. If it was cheating, for example, then it’s to be expected that he isn’t going to be open to talking very much with you for a decent chunk of time (or maybe ever).

How should you handle getting blocked on social media? The answer is essentially, do nothing. This doesn’t mean never do anything, just bide your time, and wait for some clarity to appear in the situation. Sometimes, this is the best prescription, as taking action might only serve to dig the hole deeper or cause him to lose even more interest if you start to chase him. Maybe it’s best to say that you aren’t ‘doing nothing’, rather, you are giving him the space he needs to cool off and get over what’s bothering him.

So, do this:

  • Treat the relationship as if it is completely over
  • Deal with emotional baggage and loneliness
  • Find new hobbies, opportunities, friends, dates, etc. to help spark positive change in your life
  • If the lines of communication do open up eventually, reevaluate if you still even want to try to fix this relationship with your ex-boyfriend.

 

Understand that: the outcome of the situation is not under your complete control. He is going to do what he is going to do and you cannot force him to want to talk to you. What you can do is play the odds, towards the best possible outcome. In the situation of getting blocked on Facebook, the best way to play the hand you’ve been dealt is to, not panic and sit pat.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back After a Year

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Time apart is necessary for the process of healing oneself after a breakup and figuring out what direction to take one’s life in. The healing process is one which is internal, however, just because time apart can heal sadness doesn’t mean that it will cure what ails a broken relationship. Now, it’s been a year or longer since your break up and you want to give it another go with your ex-boyfriend? Can you even get an ex to come back into a relationship after that long of time apart? The answer is yes, it is possible…not probable but possible. People have sometimes gotten divorced and then remarried years later. While others dated as teenagers and the reconciled as adults. These things do happen but it just isn’t a likely event. Perhaps, an even better question to ask than the likelihood of this happening is whether or not it is a good idea to try and get back together or to simply move on?

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Why Do You Want Him Back?

This is the question that I ask myself after breakups with my girlfriends and that creeping feeling of loneliness and desire sets in. It is important to not blindly trust your feelings but to analyze exactly why it is you feel a certain way. This longing feeling can stem from symptoms of dissatisfaction with your own life, that, when you take a closer look you realize that it doesn’t really involve your ex-boyfriend. We tend to clamor for what we think will make us feel better in the short-term, even if it is a bad decision for our overall well-being. This can of course take its shape in the form of junk food, drugs, etc. However, it can also manifest itself in chasing some idealized past relationship which ignores all of its flaws.

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It can be a really great plan to do a complete assessment of what you want for you life and future to see if getting back together with your ex-boyfriend is actually what you want. Perhaps, you are just chasing after your memories because you feel like getting back into a relationship with this person will act as a cure-all of sorts for your life. Some people do have an unhealthy level of longing for their ex, that really isn’t going to provide them any benefit if they actually succeed in rekindling the broken relationship. Many times, the best course of action is to finally let go and move forward with your own life.

Take your time and strongly consider every possible angle of pursuing a new found relationship with your ex. Is he really all that great? Does he actually offer something you couldn’t get with any other man? Do you simply currently not have many other dating options due to work, school, shyness, etc and are now idealizing this past relationship due to loneliness? Did the problems you have in your past relationship magically disappear? Are these problems even fixable?

This type of introspection questioning is extremely beneficial because it allows you to challenge your preconceptions and not get suckered in by emotions that are potentially pointing you in the wrong way. Digging deep into your own thoughts and true feelings can help you to prevent making the mistake of wasting your time chasing someone who isn’t good for you or even worse, restarting a bad relationship that has no chance of succeeding.

 

OK fair enough…but…I Still Want Him Back, What are My Chances?

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It gets lonely sometimes

So, after you have gone through the long process of questioning what you want for your life and whether or not pursuing a relationship with your ex is even a good idea, you can then start to thing about what problems are preventing you from making a reconciliation happen. Again, this is another process of thinking and analysis but it is totally necessary.

Understand that, after a year or more apart your ex-boyfriend is not the same person mentally/emotionally and probably hasn’t stayed stagnant in other ways either. Consider his current relationship status. Does he have a new girlfriend? Multiple friends with benefits? Is he completely single and alone? Depending on which category he falls into, your chances of getting back together will change. If he has a girlfriend and it seems to be serious, I would honestly recommend that you leave it alone and just move on. It’s not fair to him or his current girlfriend to have his ex (who he may not have any interest in any longer) to be butting their nose into his personal life.

OK, let’s say that he doesn’t currently have a girlfriend or any really ‘serious’ prospects at the moment. The good news is that you have a slightly better chance to renew a relationship with him than you otherwise would. The odds become more or less favorable depending on the causes of the breakup, the problems of the relationship, who dumped who, how each of you have changed, and what type of communication the two of you currently have.

 

Whose Idea was the Breakup, Anyways?

Is he the right man for you?

Is he the right man for you?

Sometimes a break up is mutually agreed upon while other times it is the result of one person’s desire and the other partner has no idea what hit them. If it was his idea to break up with you, then, he probably had his reasons at the time. However, with time feelings tend to die down and you can kind of forget what the reasons were in the first place. This can be a benefit or a detriment towards getting back your ex-boyfriend. If he thought he could find a better fit than you and found out it was a mistake through first hand experience, then it can be a boon for your cause. However, the opposite effect may have taken place and while meeting new women, he found out that maybe he was justified in the breakup.

If on the other hand, you were the one who dumped him, you might have a better shot at reconciliation. In some instances, he might still be very open to having a open dialogue about getting back together with you, since he might not have wanted to break up in the first place. This can of course depend on certain circumstances such as the severity of the break up, whether cheating was involved, and how his romantic and personal life has changed since then.

 

Changes?

Many times a reconciliation will only take place if the people have changed enough to get past their differences. Hopefully, you have recognized your flaws and faults and taken the necessary steps to improve them. Otherwise, you’re just setting yourself up for a repeat performance of the relationship dissolving and it probably won’t be as functional of a relationship while it lasts either. Think about it from their perspective, would they really want to get back together with you if all they were going to get is more of the same? The relationship has to start from a new place, as the two of you are now different people at different places in their lives then when you first got together. You not only have to address your own flaws but also those of your partner. Has he changed for the better? Is he even willing to address any issues you may have had with him? If not, it is going to be a waste of time for all involved.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again. Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:  Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”. Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance. Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program: “Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R. “My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

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Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back After You Cheated On Him?

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In the course of some relationships, cheating and infidelity can happen. Sometimes, you are on the receiving end of it, while other times you are the one who cheated. If you find yourself in the latter situation, it can be quite a difficult place to start again from. This violation of trust can quickly put an end to even the longest term relationships and can destroy any chances of reconciliation even when both parties still love one another a lot. In this post, I want to explore a bit on the possibilities or techniques for getting back together with your ex-boyfriend when you were the one who cheated.

 

Forgive Before Seeking Forgiveness

So, you’ve cheated and your boyfriend dumped you as a result. The first step before even considering your chances to get back together with him is to fully accept the mistake you made and forgive yourself. I know that in this situation, you can really feel bad about what you did and continue to carry around guilt about it. However, if you are going to move forward with your life, either with or without your ex-boyfriend, you need to come to terms with it internally.

This is easier said than done, obviously, but it is possible when you let go of the past and the emotions which have arisen from it. You cannot alter the past, just as you cannot alter the future and guarantee that your ex is going to take you back and absolve you of your relationship sins. Work out the emotional guilt. Figure out why you really cheated. Was it a fit of passion? Did it stem from a lack of fulfillment with your ex-boyfriend? Even if the two of you got back together would it be a good relationship or would you still be unsatisfied? Would he hang the fact that you cheated over your head, even after taking you back? These are the types of things you need to come to terms with before deciding if it is a good idea or not to try to reconcile.

 

Time Apart is Time to Heal

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We need some time apart…

Following the No Contact Rule post-breakup is a good idea because it gives both people a time to breathe and learn to live again without that other person impeding on their emotions. If you cheated, then there is a good chance that your ex isn’t speaking to you at all anyways. Don’t lose it over this fact, just respect their wishes at this time and don’t continually pester them with text and phone messages begging for forgiveness. This period will usually last 30-60 days and is necessary to let things cool off and for those strong emotions to calm down a bit. During this time apart, realize that no matter what one does, sometimes getting back together with an ex isn’t an option and prepare yourself to move forward in life, as a wiser person.

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Understand that, your ex is probably furious with you, so even with your apologetic and good intentions…they probably don’t want to hear from you at all at the moment. Begging can sometimes be flattering (very rarely) but it is mostly a turn off to people. At some point, it becomes kind of pathetic and it’s really unattractive to have someone lowering themselves and trying to suck up to you. Think about guys in the past, who have tried to get with you…were you all that attracted to the obsessive types who damn near worshiped you? Probably not. You were probably drawn to the mentally stronger and more confident men, it’s the same principle at work here.

 

What Needs to Change?

 

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make dem changes

 

Okay, so you’ve screwed up royally and cheated on your ex. Now what are you going to do different in the future? In order for your ex-boyfriend to want to get back together with you, he must know that you have changed as a person and that he is going to be able to rebuild a level of trust with you. That same unquestioning level of trust may indeed be gone for good, however, a very high level of trust can be rebuilt but it has to be earned and it takes time. The first step is to accept the blame for what you did, come to terms, and assure that it isn’t going to happen again.

Again, this goes back to what triggered the cheating? If you just hooked up with some guy you thought was hot because you had a momentary weakness, how are you going to make sure that this isn’t going to happen ever again? Are you satisfied with your ex-boyfriend physically and sexually? If the answer isn’t a definitive and unwavering yes, then you should probably just move on with your life. Apologize to your ex if you want, but it isn’t fair to get back into a relationship with someone you don’t have those kinds of feelings for at a high level. It’s okay to want something else in life, even if it is difficult to get past the attachment and emotions that stem from this broken relationship, but it is necessary for both parties to be happy in the long term.

Did you cheat because of something that he did or didn’t do (not enough attention, etc.)? If this is the case, then is he going to change if the two of you were to get back with one another? Or is it something about you that is just being unreasonable or needy? What can you work on about yourself to eliminate the urge to cheat? Was it alcohol or substance related? Are you out partying too much and that opened the door for you to have an opportunity to give in to temptation?

Figure out why you cheated, the things/situations that enabled you to cheat, and demonstrate that you have changed. Also, this clearly means ending whatever type of relationship you had with the person you cheated on your ex-boyfriend with. You cannot have a relationship with that person moving forward if you want your ex-boyfriend back in your life. As such, you have to make a decision to cut them out of your life in order to reconcile.

Figure Out What You Want With Him

So, you have to ask yourself, what you want long term with your ex-boyfriend? If the two of you were to get back together, where is it ultimately heading? If it’s a complete certainty that you are in it for the long haul and he’s the one you want to be with (marriage or other long-term arrangement wise), then it makes sense to at least try to work things out.

If on the other hand, you’re unclear about what you want with him or you’re just feeling really lonely right now or you’re still feeling like you might want to be with other guys…then it is time to prep to move on with your life.

If you fall in the former camp, you have to realize that the relationship as it once was it effectively over. A reconciled relationship is a new relationship and it will take lots of work and alterations in order to get things right the second time around. Now, you of course can’t always get the other person to agree to want to come back. Who can blame them? They are probably devastated by what took place and may no longer have the room or the desire in their hearts to want to see you again. That’s a possibility which must be accepted.

 

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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Should I Take My Ex Boyfriend Back After He Hurt Me?

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At some point in the time period after a breakup, questions can begin to rise internally about what your next move should be and even if you should accept your ex-boyfriend back into your life.  This can be a confusing time filled with distraught and severe loneliness, that often times causes one to look for the quickest fix to help themselves feel ‘normal’ again. It is during these emotional crises, that we can make bad decisions based off of what we feel instead of what is the right choice for us to make. Should I take my ex back? Is he really that bad of a guy? He can change, right? And a whole host of other questions cloud our minds and effect our judgement. One of these questions could be, “Should I accept him back into my life, after he hurt me?”

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So You’ve Been Hurt…

The most basic advice that I would start with is whether your ex hurt you physically or emotionally or both. If physically, the answer of if you should get back together is a clear, no! If that’s your situation it may be advisable to seek counseling and weaken the feelings of dependency you have towards him and simply move on with your life.

If on the other hand, this guy only hurt you emotionally, you may want to consider the depth of that hurt and what about his character allowed him to scar you in this way. Now, emotional hurt can be as bad and sometimes worse than that of the physical. It is a deep-seated pain that comes into your life when someone who is that close to you, does something to betray your trust or intentionally tries to hurt your psychologically. So, it is important to get to the root of this pain and determine the severity of it.

Did He Cheat?

Some people have open relationships and that’s fine. However, for the vast majority of people, there are clearly understood boundaries of monogamy that once crossed usually spell the end of a relationship. If this is the situation which you are currently mired in, I think the best course of action is not to get back together with him.

Ask yourself, what has changed? Is he suddenly not going to make the same mistake again? Will you be able to accept the fact that he cheated and not let it affect your reconciliation? The relationship has fundamentally changed, so even if the two of you do decide to get back together, is it a situation in which the two of you can grow stronger together? Answer honestly about why you would even want to be with someone who cheats on you in the first place? Dependency and not having a clear option to replace him are not acceptable answers.

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What are His Intentions?

Another determining factor that you should consider, if you are thinking about taking him back is why he wants you back (if he does). Did he honestly realize he’s made a mistake and is actively trying to change and make things better? Or is it more of a case that he currently has no other girls to date, feels lonely, and his attachment to you is strong enough to make him want you (at least for the time being)?

Post-breakup can be a confusing time for him as well. He may be convinced that he wants to be back together with you, even if, deep down he truly doesn’t. Take what he says with a grain of salt and pay attention to his actions. Whether or not he follows through with what he says he’ll do is extremely important. Also, even if he does, that is no guarantee that you should take him back either.

What do You Want?

Emotions and loneliness aside, what is it that you want for your life? If it is unclear at this point, don’t jump back into a relationship. An irrational decision can be a costly decision to make and have you ending up being stuck with someone wrong for you for a very long time. You cannot have a successful relationship anyways, if you are not first happy with yourself and have an idea of how you want your life to be in the future.

Can he realistically be a part of those plans? Take the time for yourself, where you can be alone for a while and gain clarity about what you want and how you should proceed. You may come to realize that he is completely wrong for you and there are literally billions of other men on this planet and that some percentage of them would be much better suited for you. I know, I know, meeting people is hard but great ones do come along if you put yourself out there and make the attempt to meet them.

You cannot make a major decision like this from a position of weakness. Emotions will deceive you or bait you into thinking that you are making a solid decision by taking him back, even when that’s definitely not the case at all. Do your due diligence, be happy with yourself, determine where you want to go in your life, determine if he fits with that plan, and figure out if there are much better options for you out there than just getting back in a fallen relationship.

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Should I Take My Ex Back After they Cheated?

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A common cause of breakups is infidelity. One partner steps out of the bounds of the agreed upon relationship in order to get sex, attention, or whatever else from a third party. Honestly, cheating is probably the worst cause of the end of a relationship, as it usually produces the most hurt for the person who got cheated on. However, when some time passes after finding out about the infidelity, your ex might come crawling back to you and be begging for you to get together with them again. Your resolve might be really tough at first and you can resist the initial advances but some doubt starts to creep in and you may begin to wonder if you should indeed accept them back into your life as a lover.

 

What’s the Right Answer?

My policy has always been that I will not accept fixing things between me and a girl who cheats. That’s it. I can forgive and quickly let it go, but unless we had some sort of open relationship agreement, cheating is immediate grounds for the termination of a relationship.

Now, having said that, this may not be the correct answer for your particular situation. Some couples can work through something like that, however, I think that for most people the mistrust would linger on in some part, even after they worked things out.

 

What to Consider

In the vast majority of cases, you shouldn’t take back someone who cheats on you. I would strongly urge you to deal with the loneliness you may feel in the short term and move on from the wreckage of that relationship into a new phase of your life. Having said that, maybe you’re hell bent on making it work, but I would take some of the following things into consideration first.

Can You Realistically Get Past This?

It takes much more than simply forgiving a person, you also have to let it go, and not let it interfere with your future relationship. Understand that: the relationship, you once had is now over. So, if you do decide to take back a cheating ex, it’s like starting from scratch. Does them cheating really bother you? Is it going to continue to hinder your ability to trust them in the future? Are you just hanging on because they are currently your best option for a relationship or are they truly the right person? Would someone who is truly ‘right’ for you, even cheat on you in the first place? If all of this, is too much to handle and cope with then the correct course would be to move on.

What Really Has Changed?

It isn’t enough for someone to say that they’ll change their behavior. Hell, everyone says they’ll change bad habits on New Years’ also and we all know how well that works out for the majority of them. Knowing them as you do, what do you honestly think they are going to change about themselves in order to make things work? You have to be honest with yourself about what you want for your future and if this person is even capable of fulfilling what you want in a relationship.

It won’t be a pretty sight if a few months down the line, your partner starts feeling comfortable with their place in your life and then starts to resort right back to the same habits and infidelities which caused the split in the first place.

Is This More About Dependency than Your Self-Respect?

We can really get attached to the person we are in a relationship with and that’s what makes being in love so great. Sometimes though, that attachment becomes a dependency with drug like effects on our lives, moods, and behaviors. Post-breakup can be a really confusing time, even if it’s clear that they hurt you badly. You may really feel that you want them back or that you actually need them in your life but this can often just be a fear of change in your life and a complete dependency on that person.

If they cheated on you, do they honestly respect you? I mean, on some levels I’m sure they do, but do they respect you completely? Do you respect yourself? Do you love yourself? If you are wishy washy on any of these questions then I would once again say, move on with your life. You need to be able to love yourself and recognize what you want and deserve in a relationship. Dependency and addiction is not a recipe for a healthy relationship, especially when someone can clearly violate the trust of the other.

Should you get back together with an ex that cheated on you? I say no and hope that you consider your situation carefully.

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