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How do You Know if Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You?

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When you have spent lots of time apart from your now, ex-boyfriend, there can be a flood of emotions that you feel which stirs a series of thoughts and questions in your mind. One of the most common questions is, “Does my ex still love me?”

The answer to that question, can have a ton of emotional significance to it, and can help gauge whether one should try to get their ex back. Or instead, try to just move on with their lives.

Of course, it is difficult to generalize answers to this question, as each person’s situation is a wholly unique one. However, there are some signs which tend to indicate someone’s feelings towards you, though, these tendencies are not always accurate.

In this post, we will go over some of the most common indicators, that an ex is still in to you and may want to get back together.

Did They Make First Contact?

If there has been a period of no contact between the two of you and your ex-boyfriend is the one who breaks the ice, this could be a sign that he still has feelings for you. At least it indicates, that he still thinks about you.

Now, is this a guarantee that he still loves you? No, it isn’t. Did he have a valid reason to contact you? Such as, if the two of you have children and he needs to know when to pick them up.

Or for instance, he had something urgent or specific to talk to you about, which wasn’t related to the former relationship. In those types of cases, his reasons for reaching out might have no emotional significance behind them, he just needed information or something from you.

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Another possibility, is that, he is simply feeling very lonely after the break up and while he might no longer be in love with you…he might want you around because you are familiar and make him feel better.

This doesn’t mean that he still loves you, he just might still have a strong attachment to you because of your history together. People do still care, want to satisfy an emotional void, etc. However, that isn’t necessarily still being ‘in love’ with their ex-girlfriend.

Consider the context and how your ex is speaking to you. Them making first contact is not by itself a total indication that he still has deep feelings about you, but, it is a potential symptom.

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Communication Continues Regularly After the First Contact

Contacting you once may be an outlier, but if your ex-boyfriend continuously contacts you, then it should catch your attention.

If he continuously texts or calls you, without an pretext to do so, then he is definitely thinking about you a lot and may still have feelings for you.

Notice that, I didn’t say that it means he loves you. Again, this could be a symptom of his loneliness, fear of change, or maybe he just wants to hookup with you, without the strings attached.

If it is at this stage, then you need to consider what you actually want. Don’t get suckered back into a relationship, just because you have no other options or your emotions make you feel like you miss him, at the moment.

When your emotions are in turmoil, it is a really bad time to start making long-term decisions. However, you still need to think about whether you truly want to make it work or just move forward with your life.

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He Checks Up On You a Lot

This can include very passive things such as, liking your posts and pictures, and generally just snooping around to see what you are doing with yourself after the break up.

This also could be his jealousy rearing its ugly head, he might not love you, but he might not want to see you with another guy either. Also, he may still do this if he has a new girlfriend.

His relationship may be genuine or he may just be trying to fill the void after your split, but if he is keeping tabs on you…you’re on his mind.

This sort of checking up, can come both in the positive and negative forms. It could be encouragement or it could be him detracting from some aspect of your life.

Generally, when people don’t care at all, they don’t tend to make themselves noticed to the person they don’t care about. Others, pretend not to care and say that they don’t, but always make a point to be around or comment.

Romantic or Sexual Interest

Yes, sometimes hooking up, after the demise of a relationship is just a one or a few times thing. It can get murky, in the post-breakup period, because it is unclear whether sex is just a physical thing or if there still is that loving component.

If this is taking place and the ex, is bringing up possibilities of reconciliation, he may still be holding that romantic flame for you.

He may also do things to spark jealousy, like bringing up other women that he’s dating, etc.

This category can, again, be a bit difficult to decipher because of the nature of sex. People can get caught up in the moment, say things that they don’t truly mean, and the like.

Nonetheless, him still being available for sex, could be a sign of still being in love…or at least liking you a whole lot.

His Conversations Have a Purpose

Some guys, will text you here and there, but it can be totally meaningless. Other guys, may keep trying to steer the conversation towards your former relationship or getting back together.

These are of course, quite large signs that he may still have strong feelings. This goes beyond keeping tabs on you and your life. This can include asking lots of questions, about any new guys you may be dating, or he talks a lot about the past and mistakes that were made.

Someone who is over you, doesn’t tend to do that, and lots of people seem to drunk text their feelings to their exes as well.

Do You Still Love Him?

The ultimate question is whether you still love him or not. But another question you need to ask yourself is, even if you do love him, do you want to get back together with him?

Relationships change after a break up and people can go their separate ways and when they do get back together, it just isn’t the same and it really doesn’t work out.

Once you solve these personal questions and are secure enough to move on with or without him, you can plan your next move.

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How to Get an Ex-Boyfriend Back After a Bad Breakup

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Some relationships just sort of peter out. Others, are quite amicable, and both parties go their separate ways without much issue. Then…there are those that are long, drag em’ out affairs, where the former pair are simply furious with one another.

These bad break ups, can take quite a toll on one emotionally, but if you still wanted to get back with your ex-boyfriend, is there actually a chance of it happening? Or is it simply too late?

In this post, I want to explore a bit of the post-break up world, when the split is particularly nasty. Plus, what could be done to potentially win him back.

Is It Too Late?

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So, there is never a 100% accurate way of determining whether or not a broken relationship can be salvaged.

When dealing with human beings, there is always the variables of how they feel and how they personally react when facing certain situations.

Some people, have a hard time moving on, while others are really efficient at cutting people out of their lives. In other words, once they’re done, they’re done for good.

The best that one can do is to try and determine the odds of getting back together based on the circumstances of the end of the relationship and general trends among people. As such, the more brutal or nasty that a break up was, often the worse the odds are for getting back together.

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That being said, it will depend on the other person’s mindset and what they want from their lives moving forward.

There are certain factors that are obvious when trying to determine if it is still salvageable, such as:

  • Who initiated the break up? If you dumped him, the odds are better (generally speaking)
  • Was cheating or some other serious betrayal involved? If so, it gets a lot more difficult to rebuild any level of trust.
  • Is there still communication (even if it isn’t always pleasant)?
  • Time since break up.
  • What were the underlying causes of the split?
  • What were the reasons for it being a particular bad breakup? What was said or done?

Those are just a sampling of things that could contribute to the overall odds that are coming into play here. Again, it’s never perfect to determine if things will be successful, but we can certainly gauge the potential.

Is it ever really too late? In a sense, no. BUT it doesn’t mean that the situation cannot be extremely dire in terms of the odds of a reconciliation.

Plus, super long periods of time (think over a year), tend to not be such a great help to reconciliation. People tend to be in a different spot in their lives and mind sets. That being said, it sometimes works out, because both partners tend to cool off and realize they’re better with each other.

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Do You Really Want Him Back?

Now, I know the impulsive answer to the above question is, “Yes, of course I do!”.

However, the post break up time period can be really tricky to know exactly what we want. Emotions are running high, and there is a replay in our minds, of what went right and what went wrong with the relationship. This can play on an endless loop, after a split.

With all of these feelings and thoughts stirred up, it gets really murky as to what the correct path is sometimes. This is especially true when a relationship ends badly.

I mean, if both parties cordially agreed upon the break up, it can be easy to deal with the aftermath. BUT, when things get nasty, what comes next is often a confusing whirlwind.

What I’m saying is, don’t just go into this process asking yourself, if you can get him back. Also, consider the outcome of if you do get him back.

Would things be better beyond just the immediate relief of the negative emotions that come after a break up? What would actually change in this new version of the relationship versus the previous one that ended so poorly?

This is where to old saying, be careful what you wish for, is applicable. You might just get him back and then what? Where is it going? What do you actually want from a relationship? Can the relationship with him actually supply that?

If not, what are you expecting a renewed relationship to provide? Or are you just making decisions based on your current emotions and might choose a different path, once your mind has cleared a bit?

There can also be way too many underlying issues, for a relationship to be viable in the long-term. Things get said or done, which can breed resentment, even after both have agreed to ‘move past it’.

We can too often want to satisfy our feelings in the here and now. In doing so, we are essentially borrowing from the future. Pushing off further emotional pain or a bad relationship, just to not feel bad now.

Really take the time to figure this part out, if you haven’t already done so. This isn’t a rash decision to be made on a whim, you can take the time and choose what the best course of action to take in your life is.

Get Yourself Together

If the break up was recent (within 2 months or so), there probably should still be a period of time in which you just allow yourself to heal. Again, emotions are still going crazy at this point, and the physical and psychological effects associated with a break up are real and quite raw.

During this period where you will be away from one another, take the time to focus on yourself and figure out what direction you want to take your life in, if that’s something you need to take care of.

Even little things, like working out and socializing can have real immediate benefits to how this time period goes. Begin to explore new things or consider if you want to take your life in an entirely new direction.

There is always the possibility that the relationship is done for good. It sucks, but it does happen to just about everybody. Times change and people change. That doesn’t mean, however, that we should just give up on ourselves and lament that things will never ‘get better’. Hogwash.

If you’ve been begging or pleading, with the ex, and haven’t gotten a response; consider doing a 30 day No Contact period. Reevaluate things, come up with a plan, if you’re still wanting to pursue getting back together, and let the anger or resentment he has cool down some.

Here are some posts that deal with this:

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What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

One great thing about the program, is that it is emailed to you, so that you can get started right away. Try it and see if it works out for you, like it has for so many others.

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Why Won’t My Ex-Boyfriend Reply to My Text Messages?

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Texting has pretty much revolutionized communication over the past decade or so. Along with it, both positive and negative aspects of this transformation in technology. No longer do you have to rely on playing phone tag to get a hold of someone in order to talk to them.

On the flip side, it can also make it easier to ignore or simply choose not to reply to someone, like an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. So, she can now see that we’ve texted, hit her up on Facebook Messenger, What’s App; and not get back to us at all. In essence, leaving us wondering why?

So, exactly why may an ex be choosing to ignore the person that they just broke up with or were dumped by? Well, in this post I want to explore some of the more common reasons that an ex-boyfriend may not be replying to texts that you send to them post-breakup.

There may be more specific reasons, to your individual situation, but I can only lay out the most universal causes.

Why is He Ignoring and Not Responding to my Texts?

It’s Become Irritating

One of the main reasons, that people will stop replying to text messages, is due to over-texting by the other person. At some point, a guy will get tired of having to rehash the same old fights, or have his ex-girlfriend begging him to take her back.

Frankly, it’s not a good look. Texting too much becomes pathetic and unattractive to the person, even when you think that it is helping your case to get them back (hint: it isn’t helping).

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More is not necessarily always better and can often have the opposite effect of what you intended.

Instead of looking forward to a text message from you, he will actually be repulsed, and driven away from feeling like ever responding.

Desperation is unattractive and by texting all the time or just too much, one can easily come off as desperate, thus less attractive in their ex’s eyes.

However, it is actually a really common thing. After a break up, we tend to be really panicky and desperate. We think that if we can just explain ourselves, we can ‘fix’ the broken relationship.

Thus, we over-text, when we feel that it’s not really going our way. We try to get them to just understand, but instead, the ex will be pushed away. It’s counterintuitive to what we think, but chasing them and pleading, really isn’t an effective strategy.

He’s Really Mad

Emotions are usually running pretty high, during the post-breakup period, and sometimes that main emotion is anger. This situation can vary in how long it lasts, because we are dealing with emotions, and not everyone has the same patterns.

There are times in which, all it takes is a short break from one another, in order for their emotional outbursts to subside. However, there are situations like when a girl cheated on her ex-boyfriend that the resentment can last for much longer.

This can be a very tough situation to extricate themselves from. The deeper the emotional scars, the harder it’ll be to get him back, willing to talk.

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An ex-boyfriend being mad at you, usually isn’t that big of a deal. As it mostly involves, waiting on them to wear themselves out with being angry at you; before they’re willing to talk again.

Though, as I said, it can be more serious depending on your individual circumstances. You know what happened in your relationship and the ensuing break up.

Was he really angry at you? Has he become angry with you, after you did or said something, post-breakup?

He’s Moving On or Trying To

An ex cutting off communication may be the result of them trying to move on with their lives on their own terms without the baggage of the old relationship.

This can mean that they want to strike out on their own and be single for a while or it can mean that they are seeing other women or one specifically.

This can be the most emotionally painful of the reasons to deal with, as seeing that an ex is with someone else or no longer wants to be with you is a blow to our ego.

While it isn’t an easy experience to get through, we all must come face to face with this at some point in our dating lives. We should ultimately accept, that time and circumstances change, how things once were between two people.

There comes a time when we must learn to let go and deal with our emotional fallout from the breakup. This doesn’t mean necessarily that a broken relationship cannot be repaired eventually, but that we have to prepare ourselves for life on our own, regardless of the outcome.

Sometimes, people just need to go out on their own for a while. They go out and date and try new things. But, what many people often find, is that the grass isn’t always greener. Then, they start to remember what they had fondly, which can play to our advantage of reconciling things.

Where’s the Challenge?

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This is sort of related to the point about becoming annoying by texting him too much. If you’re in constant communication or chase mode with an ex-boyfriend, where is the challenge to him at getting you back in his life?

If you’re always available to him, is he going to see you as a high value woman, who has lots of things going for her? Or is he going to become even less attracted to you due to his familiarity with you and the fact that he knows he can have you back at any time?

There are times when the fun, is in the chase itself. Something or someone that is widely available, has less value in people’s eyes, than something that is more scarce and sought after.

Begging is not attractive. Treating him like his some elevated being, is not attractive. Having respect for yourself, as a woman, is attractive.

What’s there to draw him back to? There is such a thing, as playing hard to get. Now, some people go crazy with it, and make it near impossible to get. Nonetheless, it’s still a good idea to not always make yourself so available.

What Can You Do when the Ex-Boyfriend Won’t Reply?

The strategy should be fairly simple. Trying to text him now, obviously isn’t working. We now have some possible reasons why and you can think about one’s that are specific to your situation.

The first step, should be to cease the texts, for the time being. Go No Contact for 30 days, at least. I wouldn’t go more than two months, before reaching out again.

During this time, do some work on yourself. Get your emotions and mind, in a good place, before deciding what to do next. You want to be utterly certain that you want to try to get back together with him.

You need to make sure that you’re not just in a bad emotional spot, currently. That you do indeed, actually want to get back together with him.

If reconciliation is the path that you want to try, then, you will re-contact him after a No Contact Period.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, when it is time to re-contact the ex, there’s going to have to be a good way to do it. We’ve already been talking about texting, in this post, and that’s one of the most effective ways to reach out.

He won’t respond right now, but hopefully with some time apart, he will have a change of mind.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them, with no time limit. No need to think on your feet, for ‘the perfect thing to say’.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Once purchased, it is emailed directly to you. There’s no waiting around for a physical delivery, so you can get started right away. Michael lays out a full strategy of how to re-attract an ex, step by step, through text messaging. From the first text, to keeping it going, to setting up a meeting with them.

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How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back if He Broke Up with You

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There are numerous variants of how exactly a relationship can end. Sometimes it’s proactive, sometimes it’s due to a single event, and sometimes it just gradually falls apart. One of the more regularly occurring ways a break up happens, is that the man dumps his girlfriend. Giving either no excuse or reasoning, and/or some lame reason, that doesn’t sound very believable.

When your now ex-boyfriend leaves you, it’s a bitter pill to swallow, and can indeed hurt like hell for a long time. Even with all of this emotional tumult, there can still be that thought that creeps into your mind about getting back together with him.

Then another question arises, “Can I even get him back, if he broke up with me?”

Well, yes, at least in some cases. However, there are even more questions that need to be answered before pursuing such a project. Such as, is it really what I want or is it even likely to succeed in my individual case?

In this post, I want to go a little bit deeper into this topic and what needs to be considered when trying to get back an ex-boyfriend who dumped you.

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Getting One’s Mind Clear

In my eyes, the first step of trying to reconcile with someone after a break up is to truly decide that it is something worth pursuing.

Listen, it’s not always an easy process to get back together with an ex-boyfriend, and it can definitely take some time to pull off.

As such, one has to be sure that this is truly what they want in their lives, and not just act out of the pure raw emotion that stems from a break up.

There is a lot of pain and loneliness that comes along after a relationship ends. A lot of it has to do with the addictive qualities of love and companionship.

It hurts because one expects that person to be around, we’ve conditioned ourselves for it, and when it doesn’t happen…it doesn’t feel good.

The thing of it is, this feeling can still be found within you, even if you weren’t 100% compatible with someone. I’ve gotten dumped by girls before, been completely torn up about it for months, only to later on realize how truly lucky I was to get out of that relationship.

None of those ladies would’ve been the right fit for me on a long-term basis. BUT it still hurt really bad when it happened.

That’s one of the reasons that the No Contact Rule after a break up is so effective and important, it provides clarity.

With enough time apart, the emotions can subside, to the point where you can make a rational choice about what exactly it is you want in your life. Sometimes, you find out that he isn’t it and other times you can figure out that reconciliation is something that is worth attempting.

Take the time for yourself and truly analyze what it is that you want from your life. What direction would you like to take it? What kind of relationship, do you want at this point in time? Do you even want a relationship at all?

Things to Ponder About the Relationship

What were some of the causes that ended the relationship? How did things end up going from complete romance to utter failure? Since he initiated it, you might not know his exact reasoning, but you can surely think about some potential flaws or problems that the relationship had.

Did you cheat on him? In that scenario, for instance, it is obviously going to be more difficult to lure him back than if no infidelity took place. If you did cheat, ask yourself, why? Were you bored or dissatisfied with him? With your life? Or do you actually want to explore other options. Be honest with yourself and don’t judge your conclusions so harshly.

Was the end of the relationship caused by him cheating or the presence of another woman? In that case, the best course of action is to move on with your life, and not try to repair things with someone who clearly doesn’t want to be involved all that much in the confines of that previous relationship.

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The amount of time that has passed since the end of the relationship is also a factor. If he broke up with you many months ago or even over a year ago, it’s probably time to let it go. Now, this doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to fix things eventually…just a lot less likely.

Then, there is the question of what type of relationship it was and how serious did it get? Of course the odds of reconciliation are going to be effected by the individual person who is being dealt with but also something like age can also be a factor.

For instance, someone reading this who is coming off of a high school or college break up, is generally going to be in a much different place than an older person, who may have been involved in marriage talk.

Go No Contact

The No Contact period can be an important step to take during this process. Not only does it give you the time to think properly about what you want and to heal. It also, creates a certain distance, to where you aren’t texting or begging the ex to come back.

You don’t want to get caught in a spot, where you cannot control yourself and, you just pester him about getting back together. It’s ultimately an unattractive quality, and the point is, to re-attract the ex.

This time apart also gives him the ability to be clear about what he wants moving forward, without any interference. Think about it. If one keeps talking to their ex-boyfriend, he never has time to miss you, but he does have plenty of time to be annoyed.

The No Contact Rule is usually in effect for 30-45 days. However, it can go as short as three weeks, to as long as two full months. This is usually sufficient enough to make progress towards finding out, whether or not, a relationship will be salvageable.

This period of time should be used to heal emotionally, improve yourself, your life, and to consider how to fix the issues that caused the relationship to fail. Again, one may discover that, it cannot be fixed. That’s fine, most relationships, are not meant to be in the long-term.

Re-Establish Communication

After at least, 3-4 weeks of No Contact. The opportunities to begin to talk to an ex again, will begin to arise. In some cases, the boyfriend, may reach out first. Yes, even when he was the one who initiated the break up.

On your end, you’ve had plenty of time to reconsider, whether or not, you actually want to try to get back together. Or if you’re better served, by moving on entirely from this broken relationship.

Of course, not all of the problems of the relationship are solved, at this point. But there has been enough time apart, to cool down, and think fairly clearly about the future prospects.

If you’re still in the mindset, that reconciliation is the goal. You can then, reach out to the ex-boyfriend, to feel out whether it is a possibility or not.

What’s the first move?

To re-establish contact with an ex, the best opening move has to include the right form of communication. Not just having the best message or line. Phone calls and face to face meetings can be really hard to pull off, especially if the other person doesn’t want to talk.

Luckily, text messaging exists nowadays. This is an advantage, because it takes so much pressure off of things, and is a pretty passive form of communication. Which means, it’s way less intrusive and annoying. We want to gently work our way back into a dialogue, with the ex, in order to move things forward.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, which explains some very basic things not to text your ex and provides a simple roadmap, of this program’s process. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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Chances of Getting My Ex-Boyfriend Back?

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The break up happened and after some amount of time an idea will start to creep into one’s mind saying, “Can we get back together with him?” The hamster wheel begins spinning furiously. It’s trying to figure out, if the chances of getting an ex-boyfriend back, are still good or if they are seemingly beyond any hope.

When looking into this sort of thing, understand that there is no exact way to truly measure the odds of successfully fixing a broken relationship. There are too many variables at play in each person’s unique circumstance. However, there are certain signs which point more strongly to one direction versus the other.

With that in mind, I thought that I’d go over some of the considerations that should be looked at, which can give an indication of how good one’s odds of getting an ex-boyfriend back are. Again, nothing is a 100% certainty but there are repetitive themes within human relationships, that can improve or ruin these chances.

Who Started It?

Which person in the relationship, ended the relationship? If you did and are now beginning to regret the decision, your odds will be better in most cases.

It is easier to get someone back after you break up with them, as they often weren’t expecting it, and probably didn’t want the relationship to be over. Now, that’s not always the case, especially if there was something about the break up that particularly devastated them.

If he was the one who initiated the break up, it’s a much tougher hill to climb because his motives for doing so will come into play. Maybe he wasn’t ready to be serious or wants to go in another direction with his life.

Those sorts of things can completely throw off reconciliation plans and can be tough to navigate. Though, I believe that women usually have an exit strategy in place when they break up (in terms of having other guys available to them) than do men when the dump somebody.

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If it was a mutual decision, then, it’s kind of muddy and could go either way with about equal odds. Again, it will all depend on the unique variables of your relationship.

While this can be a big piece of the puzzle, it isn’t the end all, be all. Lots of break ups can happen on an impulse. So, he might have dumped you, and then later realized he made a mistake.

Plus, people can just change their minds, once they’ve experience what life and that dating world is like post-breakup. Then, it becomes clear what they’ve given up.

How Long was the Relationship?

Time spent within a relationship can have a huge effect, as to whether or not someone is willing to move on.

Dating for a few months, it’s a lot easier to cut ties with someone.

Dating for years? That’s a tough one to get past. Even when you’re mad, at the other person, it’s still a situation nobody wants to leave frivolously.

So, the longer the relationship lasted, usually the better odds that someone has at a reconciliation. Those emotional bonds are too strong.

However, there still are the cases in which, the ex-boyfriend is just so completely tired of dealing with the woman and relationship. Everyone has a breaking point, or at least where they no longer see a future, with their current partner.

What Did He Want?

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One common cause of break ups is differing relationship goals. A person may not currently be on the same page as their partner in terms of what they want from their dating life.

He may want to play the field, while you may want to be in a committed relationship, that has a path forward into the future.

There are also times when there is great confusion as to what he wants. He may like aspects of the relationship but may be feeling drawn elsewhere. Ultimately, if the man doesn’t feel that his ex-girlfriend fits into his plans, it is much more difficult to convince him otherwise.

There is also the reverse situation, where he wanted to be committed, and you were the one full of uncertainty. In this scenario, it is much easier to get back together, as you’d just have to be willing to get serious about things.

However, I would still say that you’d really make sure that is what you actually want and not just string him along, while still wanting to live the life of a single woman. Don’t force a major change into your life, just because you currently feel bad.

His own internal inclinations, as to what he wants from his life currently and from his dating life in particular, will go a long way to determining the odds of reconciliation.

This one can be a bit hard to figure out at times, as some guys won’t always express what they want, or even know exactly themselves.

What Were The Underlying Causes?

Some relationships merely need minor fixes in order to function well again. Others, are completely broken on a very fundamental level. Trust may be non-existent, fighting may be all too often, and the sight of the other person may be too much for one party to handle.

The causes of the break up can have a huge impact on the odds. For instance, if you were caught cheating or severely abusing his trust, then it is going to be remarkably hard to regain his trust to the level that it needs to be within a relationship.

In most of those cases, the best decision is probably to move on, work out your personal issues, and give a go at a relationship with someone else down the line.

If it was something such as fighting or arguing all of the time. Ask yourself, how is this issue going to be solved if a new relationship is formed with one another? Things won’t just magically be better the second time around, the old relationship’s problems need to be addressed.

Relationship Status

Are you seeing any one else now? Is he? How serious are either of your dating lives? Now, if the break up was really recent, this might not be an issue. However, if the break up occurred months ago, than it almost certainly is a factor.

The longer the time apart and the more the other person has started dating or being involved in exclusive types of relationships…the longer the odds will be that he will get back together. People tend to grow apart with time and the conditions that once made the relationship work out well are no longer there.

Did You Burn Bridges?

While it is common for people to be angry at one another, after a break up. There are things that some folks do, that goes way above and beyond, just being a bit mean.

If you did or said anything particularly egregious towards him, since you’ve broken up, that can also be a big negative.

Communications

What is the current level of communication? Are you guys still talking a lot or is it completely shut off? Has he blocked you on social media?

If he is still speaking with you, that obviously means that things aren’t so terrible between the two of you, as to make it an extraordinary effort to get back together. The more receptive he is, the better the odds.

Now, there are cases such as having children together, that requires him to talk to you…that level of communication doesn’t entirely count in this aspect. Also, sometimes he still wants to remain friendly but has no interest in fixing the relationship.

If he is texting or talking to you a lot, especially when there doesn’t seem to be a real necessity for him to do so, the better the odds that things can be salvaged.

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There are plenty of other signs that will be unique to your relationship and the variables that are set within it. Keep in mind that while generally, the number of positive signs you identify for reconciliation will improve the odds of getting back together, there is still no guarantee that he can be one back.

He is still an individual with his own desires, thoughts, and feelings…which means that he can take his life in whatever direction he chooses, with or without the former relationship intact.

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Make My Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing Me

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There are of course a myriad of emotional standpoints one can find themselves starting from after someone breaks up with you. Some, go for the ‘I have to get my ex back at all costs‘ strategy. While others, seem to like to go with the ‘I’m going to make my ex-boyfriend regret letting me go’.

In either case, the best route to take may not be the one that immediately pops into your head while the emotions of the relationship are still fresh. With a clear head, one can recognize these types of ‘revenge’ actions as purely petty and egotistical.

After all, what do you really end up ‘winning’ when trying to get back at someone for having the audacity to leave you? The real answer when you set all of the BS aside, is nothing of importance.

In this post, I want to explore what I mean and how to move past this notion of wanting to make this guy regret losing you from his life.

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Why Do You Want Him to Feel Regret?

Ok, so you’ve allowed yourself to get to the point of researching of how to plot emotional revenge on someone, which means you’ve probably been thinking about this for at least some time.

Ask yourself, what is at the core of these types of feelings?

Because let’s be very clear about something, you are dealing in the world of feelings, and not of rational thought. Feelings can be a good guidepost for exploring what we want and what we don’t want in our lives.

However, feelings can also lead us astray and down paths which are ultimately pointless or self-destructive.

Feelings are just feelings. Feelings are not you. The fundamental mistake is identifying yourself based on feelings.

You are not anger, nor sadness, nor envy, nor any other temporary state of emotion.  Precisely because thoughts and feelings are temporary and always changing, they can never be who we truly are.

Are you the anger you felt once when you were six years old? Of course not. They can certainly hijack our lives but we don’t have to give them the power or follow them to whatever random place our thoughts and feelings wish to take us.

Instead, we can observe them, get to the source of where the are coming from, and then let them go. Releasing this attachment, which only serves as a weight which will drag us down.

Releasing the Negative

Let’s take a close look at this current emotional situation. Your current state is obviously aligned towards the negative. This has to be the case, if you are seeking revenge on someone, for no longer wishing to be in a voluntary relationship with you.

After all, where was the guarantee that this relationship was going to work out forever for the both of you?

So, you currently reside on a lower tier of emotion (negative) and you wish to use someone else’s pain, discomfort, and/or longing which you will manufacture, in order to catapult yourself to a higher tier (positive or at least the illusion of feeling better).

Instead of focusing on moving forward alone or attempting to reconcile things with him, you are planning on devoting your energy, to satisfying the narrative about your past relationship you have got going on in your mind?

Stop listening to the constant mental loop of thoughts and feelings that are telling you to get back at him and make him feel shitty about the break up.

This story you have running through your mind is poisonous to an enjoyable life. It is only strengthening your dependence, on people or things which are external to you, and which you cannot control.

If you do get the reaction that you desire, the ‘positive’ feelings will only be temporary. Plus, if you don’t succeed in making him react, in the manner you want, you will be dragged deeper into negativity.

For a moment, I would like for you to consider not focusing on how to make him feel bad about letting you go. Rather, try to gain mental clarity and focus on letting your attachment to this idea of  creating regret go.

People come and go out of our lives. Sometimes, it’s a simple change and other times it can be an ugly breakup when egos are seriously invested. Chasing after petty points and victories post-breakup are ultimately very hollow ‘wins’.

You’ve really only succeeded in possibly hurting someone you probably still care about on some level. You have given a boost to your own ego, instead of turning your attention inward, and making your own life better and more vibrant.

If he really is a terrible person and he is now no longer a part of your life, why would you want to change that? Leave things as they are and move forward.

His negativity, meanness, or bad actions don’t need to be matched by you. The relationship is over. Take any important lessons from it and follow your life’s path.

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Turn Your Focus on Betterment and Watch Others Perk Up Around You

The funny thing is that, people will tend to notice the positive changes you make within your life, and how you’ve changed as a person.

So, if you’re focusing on self improvement rather than simply trying to make your ex feel regret, he might naturally come to regret breaking up with you…simply because you’ve become such a great person with an awesome life.

I’ve seen this sort of thing in action first hand, with women, in my case. Back when I couldn’t get girlfriends, dates, sex, etc. I would think that I was simply not attractive to women and I’d never be able to interest them very much.

I was partly correct, I wasn’t attractive to women at that time. However, I could develop myself into the man I wanted to be and thereby attract women into the world I had created for myself.

This included reading books constantly, getting into better shape physically, learning to socialize, developing my personal philosophy, pursuing my passions, working on my ideal lifestyle, etc.

All of these things in totality, over the years has yielded a much greater ability to attract women and make them want to be a part of my life…just by being who I was and not having to ‘chase’ them.

Even women who turned me down, when I was without confidence or skill, took notice of the change and some even made themselves available to me.

The journey of life is ultimately about yourself and coming to terms with your existence in a world that can be flat out crazy and emotionally draining. It can however, also be beautiful, and gearing yourself up to pursue the beautiful in life has plenty of benefits.

One of which being, that people are naturally attracted to confidence and others who make their lives their own.

So, in a very real way, the key to make someone regret leaving you behind, is to not focus on making them feel regret. The key is to focus on yourself and creating your ideal life.

Let other people have their pettiness and emotional manipulations. You should rise above that, understand what they’re doing, and love them anyways. The revenge notion or getting the better of someone post-breakup is quite frankly a waste of time.

Don’t let yourself become controlled by these intense emotions but let yourself observe them arise and notice how they effect your thinking in a negative manner. Once you’ve done this, the grip these negative feelings have over you begin to weaken and you see them for how silly they truly are.

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How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back when He has a New Girlfriend

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As a straight male, I’ve never actually had to get my ex-boyfriend back from another girl (full disclosure :p). However, as a man I feel that I can offer a different perspective on the end of your relationship and whether or not you can start anew with him, even if he has a new girlfriend.

Now, just to be upfront about things, for many women reading this: your relationship is most likely over for good and you should move on with your life. I know that sucks to hear in the middle of  emotional turmoil but it’s not the end of the world, it’s simply a change that needs to be dealt with.

Anyhow, let us get started and delve a little bit further into this topic.

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The First Thing I Ask You to Consider

The first and most paramount step that I recommend that anyone take before pursuing getting back together with their ex is to truly analyze things and figure out if that is truly what you want. You might be thinking, Of course that’s what I want, that’s how I ended up on this website! 

Believe me, I completely understand the raw emotion and hurt that comes along with a breakup or seeing your significant other with someone else. It feels terrible and it isn’t a very pleasant experience, however, it is one which we almost all will have to face in life.

As such, it is important to learn how to get through it and learn to grow from this change.

Emotion obviously clouds good judgment. Most people won’t react to everyday problems with nearly the same intensity as that of a break up and this is entirely based on the amount of emotions and attachment that is involved.

This is why a long period of no contact is so important after a relationship ends because it allows both parties to have space apart and avoid the strong emotional triggers. Plus, with time emotional attachments tend to weaken.

With that being said, while you’re in an emotional state of mind, you will of course feel like you want your ex-boyfriend back even if a rational assessment of the situation would reveal that it is best just to forget about him.

After all, the relationship ended for a reason (probably multiple reasons), which means that it fundamentally had some problems.

What were those problems? Would getting back together solve them? Can they be solved? The relationship would be different than it had been before, will there be lingering resentments, is the spark gone, would this even work long-term?

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See…these are the types of things that need to be thought through before even considering getting back into a relationship with that person.

Take off the rose colored glasses and look at the relationship as it was and not as an idealized version of itself. Look at your flaws as well as his flaws and take your time, with as few emotions interfering as possible…take your time, as this step is very important.

This is an assessment into your life and what you want going forward. Not just about who you date, but what you want to do in your career, or even how you want to spend the next immediate few months.

Is he actually worth it? Does he fit actually fit into your vision for the future or is it habit and loneliness, that has you chasing him? People often figure out after some time apart from their exes, that they’ve grown as a person, and no longer need that same relationship.

It’s happened to me, multiple times. For months, I’d feel like I wanted to get one of my ex-girlfriends back. Then, with time, I would realize that they weren’t a good fit for me and my future. Maybe they were great for the old version of me, but with where I wanted to go and who I was becoming, they no longer meshed.

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A Quick Insight into the Mindset of Men (In general, specific circumstances may vary)

Despite some insinuations to the contrary, men and women are different. That is, our thoughts and natural desires in terms of the male and female interaction (mating, dating, whatever you want to call it), are not the same nor is our approach. I

t’s sometimes said that men are not capable of love…this is not true at all, in fact, we can fall ‘in love’ very quickly with a woman who piques our interest. This is often a detriment for many guys who:

  • Fall in love with a girl first and then she loses interest
  • Guys who are inexperienced or don’t have options, in terms of women to choose from

This becomes a problem in our dating life, because we meet women who are only a pretty good fit for us. Then, we don’t have any other girls around to offset those emotions, that this ‘pretty good match’ stirs up in us.

We can end up ‘catching feelings’ and find ourselves in a bad relationship. All of this, stems from our lack of experience with relationship dynamics, and our abilities to handle complex emotions….it’s not our skill set.


A man’s attraction skill set (the one he’s supposed to develop) is all based on the short-term. We, for the most part, don’t go out looking for relationships but end up finding ourselves in one later and wondering what happened?

This skill set we’ve had to develop in our life, consists of how we walk, talk, act, dress, look, speak to you, what we do for a living, our values, social standing, etc. All of these are variables which go into attracting women to us and getting them to want to have sex with us. I can hear the accusatory voices rising:

See, all men want is sex?

Well, to paraphrase the great comedian Patrice O’Neal…sex is all I want, if that’s all you’ve got!

Our skill set, is how we build our lives in totality. Everything that we are and can demonstrate, are short-term tools to attract many women to us. It’s completely short-term and gets us lots of options to choose from when done well.

Women, in the short-term, don’t need to have this skill set in order to attract guys. The fact that you look attractive, attracts us…we don’t particularly care too much about all the other qualities about you at first. It’s just that one superficial aspect (again this is a generalization, obviously specific circumstances may vary).

What this means though, is that women’s true attractive skill set, becomes a factor later in the relationship. For a woman to keep us in a long-term relationship, she has to be better than our other options.

A man usually wants to get with (at least on biological/sexual level), pretty much any attractive girl that crosses his path….it really is like that for us and has been for most of our lives. Our inclination is to have multiple women around.

However, the right woman with that long-term attractive skill set can make us stay around and stay faithful, if she’s that good. Note: some guys, again, simply have no options…it takes nothing for a girl to keep them around because they’re desperate, which only serves to make them even more unattractive to women. So a girl being better than his options, means nothing if he has no options.

Yes, but what does this all mean?

I wanted to bring all of this up because I need to explain a bit of what our mindset is after we are broken up from our girlfriends. Again, this is dependent on the man’s skill set (his ability to attract women).

Guys who can attract women easily, will go out and do so post-breakup, while guys who cannot are usually the one’s who sit around and pine over their ex for many months or years. Let us focus on the guys who can attract women and what happens post-breakup.

After guys get out of a relationship, it is just as bad as it is for women. In fact, I think that it can be worse for us initially because it usually catches us unprepared.

For some period of time after that, we are sad about things and tend to miss our ex a lot, as the post-breakup period can be like coming off of an addiction. We get so used to having someone around, who is so very close to us. Someone who we’ve spent a lot of time with, that a void develops in our existence after a relationship ends.

How long that period goes on depends on the guy, the length of the relationship, the intensity, etc. However, when that time period of feeling bad has passed, we begin the process of moving on.

For us, a part of moving on generally means getting more girls in our lives. Sometimes, we go on a spree, and have 5+ girls on call whenever we want to see them to ‘help’ to forget about our ex.

After months, this circle of girls can be reduced down to one girl. This one girl is most likely the ‘new girlfriend’ that your ex is currently seeing.

Now, the key thing to recognize is that, this relationship may or may not mean anything. Sometimes, it just helps to have some kind of relationship to help you get through the loneliness, even if it doesn’t end up being serious.

In other cases, he might end up with a woman, that he already knew prior to the breakup. In this case, she was his best option available, and he went with it.

This can often be a rebound relationship, as if we can get a woman easily to help distract from the post-breakup emotions, we will. It may be serious, but I’d say, it is more unlikely to be all that serious.

How Can You Tell if It’s Serious?

The main indicators of a serious relationship for a guy are the length of time involved and whether or not he is showing interest in other girls (including you).

When we get involved with a girl there is usually a process of us having to cut out the other girls we were seeing or talking to in order to make our new girl not feel slighted. Check out this post for signs to look out for if your ex is still interested.

If it has also been several months that he and his new girlfriend have been together, then, odds are it is probably pretty serious. Which means for you, that reconciliation most likely isn’t going to happen (in the immediate term), and you need to begin the process of letting them go (even if there’s still a chance, prepare for the most likely outcome).

Another sign to look for is, how long after the break up, did he get involved with this new woman? There are other variables to consider, but generally, if he gets into another relationship within a month or so…it’s probably not that serious. It can be, but it is most likely just a rebound relationship.

A guy being in a rebound relationship, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Once the immediate excitement of being with someone new wears off, comparisons set in, and we see how she stacks up versus other women we dated. If she is a step back in his mind from what you provided, that rebound relationship, will in all likelihood be on the way out.

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How Can I Make Him Miss Me, if He Has a New Girlfriend?

A lot of times, it will boil down to simply being the better option. This of course assumes, that there is still a part of him, who would be open to reconciliation.

For some, that won’t be the case, as some guys do simply decide to move on for good. They’ve decided and won’t change their minds.

However, for most folks, they don’t treat things as being 100% over. After all, think of how many people, get together and then break up with their exes…time and time again.

If it still is a possibility, you have to ask yourself, what he is coming back for? If the relationship broke, as it was constructed, why would the same thing interest him?

What are the improvements which can be made? How would you make yourself the best option for him to date? Is that work even worth it to you, to attempt to get him back?

What To Do Post-Breakup

I would follow the same steps post-breakup whether I wanted to pursue my ex or not. Regardless, of outcome I would go no contact with them for at least a month before even attempting to do anything.

In the rest of my life, I would work on improving myself in a multitude of ways: appearance, health, get new hobbies, financially, meet new people, learn new things, work on my emotional health, fix my flaws that contributed to the end of the relationship, and whatever else I needed to work on.

Remember, he has to see you as better than his options, in order to want to be with you. Unless you had a complete falling out with one another, you probably still have a ton of currency with him and a place in his heart…working on improving you, increases your odds (but still guarantees nothing).

The reason for this is to fall back and regroup emotionally. It is also to give your ex-boyfriend space with his new girlfriend and not see you as being desperate by constantly calling him or texting him.

Don’t ever take shots or be jealous towards his new girlfriend, as that is a huge turnoff for guys and will make him resent you and will NOT make him want to take you back.

I know it can be difficult to control the urge to speak to him or to compare yourself to the new girl, but you have to keep things calm and those wild emotions in check. These sorts of outbursts and attacks DO NOT HELP AT ALL. They harm your odds by making you appear petty, desperate, and unattractive. All bad things, when you want to catch a man’s attention, in a positive way.

Yes, the first step to take is to ‘forget’ about him and his new chick for the time being and focus completely on yourself and your well-being. You don’t have to forget about him in actuality just don’t contact him, don’t accept his calls or respond to his texts, if you see him in person be brief and cordial and don’t beg for him to come back.

This period of time needs to be about you and healing yourself so that you can decide rationally what you want for your future. At the end of it, you might very well realize that he isn’t in your future plans and you can feel good about your decision to move on from that relationship.

Once that period of no contact is over you can make the decision to want to try and get him back….

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

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Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Fast

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Sometimes, it’s over because you cheated or he cheated. Other times, it’s more of a clean break, but there is still the lingering feeling of wanting to reconcile. Yet still, there are times when he has moved on or is just stubborn, and you’re wanting to know how you can win your ex-boyfriend back quickly?

Following a breakup, it is a common thing for ladies to want to get back  with their now, ex-boyfriend. It is a very anxious and emotional time after a split. As you now, have to deal with such a major change in your life, and must figure a way to move forward with or without this guy.

Whatever took place in your personal situation, these kinds of erratic feelings can take their toll on a person and make someone desperate to want to fix a relationship as it had been previously.  What one needs to recognize about a break up is that the  relationship itself will never be the ‘same’. It can be started anew and repaired but it will always have to be created as a newer and more functional relationship in order to persist into the future.

It is usually much more than one simple thing that causes a breakup. That means if you would only go back and change one thing, the relationship was still probably doomed. The first big decision one has to make before attempting to rekindle things with their ex-boyfriend, is if that getting back together fast, is really what you want or is this decision being based on a poor emotional state.

Before getting into steps to take to try to restart things with your ex, I am going to cover some reasons why you may want to reconsider at this point in time. Having a clear mind will allow you to have a better vantage point to decide what your next steps should be.

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Steps to Win an Ex-Boyfriend Back?

1. See Clearly Again Before Trying to Get Back Together

It is a very good idea to try and see the truth about your failed relationship. No BS, no lies, no idealizing.

We tend to only think about the good aspects of the relationship after a breakup, because we start to have doubts and feel great loneliness at times.

What were really the problems fundamentally? Be brutally honest in your assessment. Was it cheating? Was it a lack of communication? Did you two start to go down separate paths in life? Did you want different things out of the relationship?

Are these problems fixable in a short period or time or are they going to take more work? Heck, are they fixable at all?

What’s going to change about the two of you as a couple and how you get along, even if you get him to come back soon? Are the issues going to creep back up and make the relationship fall apart in short order, once again?

If he initiated the breakup, why did he do so? One doesn’t need to tear themselves down or belittle their self-worth, but you should try to be honest about what the causes of him wanting out were.

Sometimes, these are fixable, and other times they will point to things being over for good. Nonetheless, it is critical for any new relationship that will emerge, to be one that will ultimately prove solid.

There’s no point in doing all that work to reconcile, only to have it all spectacularly fall apart, a few months down the line.

Figure out exactly what the problems were and if these core issues are a deal breaker or something that can be repaired with a little bit of work.

There are plenty of couples who will be great for each other in one moment of time, then, no longer be correct for one another as life moves forward. People grow and grow apart.

Gaining clarity in this way, can help you to make a choice to move on or to potentially try and get him back.

2. Get Out From Under Dependency

Happiness does not come from a relationship or another person, happiness comes from within.

If one’s internal well-being or sense of self comes from an external source, then, as soon as it goes away (like a breakup) then the happiness (or whatever word you want to use) will disappear.

Too few people understand this and as a result, get walloped emotionally when their significant other leaves.

It is easy to become addicted to someone who makes you feel good about yourself, however, it can dredge up all types of negative emotions in their absence.

This is why it is a good idea to go no contact for a period of time post-relationship in order to let yourself heal and get some perspective on your life. Otherwise, one can fall into their own mental traps and become especially needy towards that other person.

This emotional dependency and expectation of the other person always being around, takes time to get past. Wallowing in the constant negative emotions for too long, helps to reinforce them.

This is why after a breakup, I always give myself a set period of time each day to just feel bad about it.

Then, I purposefully, add things into my schedule that induces positive emotions.

This can be simple things like meditation, listening to motivational speeches, watching comedy movies/shows…any simple thing to get me in a more upbeat mood. It’s kept basic to help ween me off of those intense negative emotions and not allowing them to become a permanent fixture.

In a very real way, it is like breaking a bad habit or addiction. Negative emotions can be so intense, that it becomes a habit to just sit in them and let it fester.

That’s a bad long-term proposition. So, one must consciously move forward, by allowing positive emotions to be experience. It’s like re-learning how to feel good.

3. Let Time Do Work

Time is important because it can be very difficult to figure things out after a relationship ends, as emotions are not stable.

Making bad decisions when you’re in this sort of state of mind can have negative consequences and push you to make irrational judgments when you otherwise would not have acted in a specific way.

You can’t allow yourself to be one of those people who pines after and wallows about their exes for years after the fact, instead of moving on with your life. Time apart and time to heal lets you get things in your life together and make good decisions about where you would like to go.

We can crave being with the other person whether we actually want to get back together with them or not. Familiarity is comfortable and a breakup throws our comfortable lives into complete upheaval. Thus, we feel like we want things to go back to the way they used to be.

However, the passage of time bring about lots of change in our lives. This is why people we dated a long time ago, don’t have the same pull that they once did, if we even think about them at all.

The time period immediately following a split, is highly volatile, and within this emotional tumult poor decisions can be made. Decisions made not of sound reasoning, rather, insanely powerful emotions that may disregard what it best for us in the long-term.

Not learning to heal and mend after things go bad, is what brings about the obsessiveness in the future. This is why some people continually pine for their exes, years after they dated them. Whether or not the reconciliation actually takes place, it is very important to get oneself in a solid and healthy mental state. This comes about with time and a steady work towards mental clarity.

4. Using the No Contact Rule During this Time of Healing

The first step to getting ready to try to get an ex boyfriend back, is doing the full assessment of the situation, and deciding if that’s actually what you want. Next, comes the time apart to get your emotional house in order, it is during this time that we apply the No Contact Rule.

No Contact is exactly what the name suggests, taking a certain period of time (about 30-45 days), and not talking to or texting the ex. It is important to stick to this as best as possible, as you both need time to cool off, and experience the separation for a while.

Use this time to improve your daily moods and emotional state. Also, figure out what direction you want to take things, if the reconciliation doesn’t occur. This can be personal development or life goals of a positive nature. Not wallowing about the broken relationship.

5. Don’t Get Desperate

Lots of people have the impulse after a break up to plead, beg, and generally act desperate towards their ex-boyfriend.

If that had a high success rate of working to reconcile people, then, just about every break up in history would have been mended.

There needs to be time apart. An ex needs to figure things out, just as much as you do. Plus, nobody finds desperation to be attractive. In fact, it’s at best an annoyance, and at worst a distinct turn off.

Keep the random outbursts of anger, pleading, and the like off of your game plan.

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6. What’s Next? Restart Communication or Move On

Remember when I wrote about the importance of letting time pass? Here is where that takes on another layer of importance. With time, the bad things about your relationship tend to fade in your ex-boyfriend’s memory.

This doesn’t mean that  all of the problems are gone. But what it does mean is that if they truly do miss you on some level, they can start thinking about the positive aspects, of what once was.

If you have played things correctly up until this point, the two of you have spent significant time apart from one another, and you have both grown up and improved yourself as a person.

You have had time to reflect on whether or not getting back together is a good choice to make or not. While they, have also had time to consider what their life is like without you.

From experience, the girls who wanted to come back always made the first move in contacting me. I would always get a text or online message saying something like, “Hey, I was just thinking about you and wanted to see how you are doing.” Or something like, “I was driving over by (insert place) and it reminded me of (some time spent together).”

If they do not contact you first, after a month or more apart from each other with no contact and you working on yourself, then it may be time to consider opening a dialogue with them.

When you get to this point, however, you must be absolutely certain that you do indeed want them back. You are also accepting of the fact, that there is no guarantee, that they will get back together with you.

You need to have better reasons to get back together with someone, other than simply, missing them or being hurt without them. That’s just missing an addiction and not the foundation of a healthy relationship.

Do the pros of being together with this person really outweigh the cons enough to invest that kind of time and energy into trying to make it work?

There are plenty of people out there who are good fits for each other but those who are truly great fits are few and far between. Be honest with yourself about what you want and who this person truly is.

What’s the first move in Communicating?

Reestablishing contact with an ex can be a tricky proposition. This was especially true in the days before cell phones were common and you actually had to try to call their house or see them in person.

Luckily, text messaging, has made things much simpler for opening lines of communication with an ex-boyfriend.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance of them answering.
  • You can craft the right message to them. Thus, again increasing the odds that they’ll bite on the message.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication. Texting isn’t invasive and with the right strategy, an ex won’t feel like you’re constantly pestering them to talk. It’s much more casual and there’s less pressure on them.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Check them out, if not. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

In this program, he breaks down the strategy of getting the lines of communication back open with the other person, and how to move things along towards a potential reconciliation.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

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I Want My Ex Back…but He Doesn’t Want Me

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A break up has taken place, one party was either dumped or did the dumping, and now the former relationship is in complete disrepair. That’s fine, assuming both parties want to move on and go their own ways. But what happens when you want your ex-boyfriend back and he doesn’t feel the same way? How does one approach this situation? Can you make him want to come back into the fold?

Is That What You Want?

The absolute foundation of any pursuit of an ex has to begin with the questions of: Is this really what you want? Is it actually worth pursuing?

The loneliness and the harsh realities of life after a breakup, can often have people’s emotions reeling, and having them want to do anything in order to get back together with their ex and ‘fix’ what ails them.

It’s not always an easy process to get back together with an ex-boyfriend, and it can definitely take some time to pull off. As such, one has to be sure that this is truly what they want in their lives, and not just act out of the pure raw emotion that stems from a break up.

There can be an addictive aspect to relationships. One expects their former partner to be around because they have been for a long time and once they no longer around, it feels really bad. It’s an emptiness, a longing.

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The thing of it is, this feeling can still be found within you, even if you weren’t 100% compatible with someone. I’ve gotten dumped by girls before, been completely torn up about it for months, only to later on realize how truly lucky I was to get out of that relationship.

None of those ladies would’ve been the right fit for me on a long-term basis. BUT it still hurt really bad when it happened.

That’s one of the reasons that the No Contact Rule after a break up is so effective and important, it provides clarity.

With enough time apart, the emotions can subside, to the point where you can make a rational choice about what exactly it is you want in your life. Sometimes, you find out that he isn’t it and other times you can figure out that reconciliation is something that is worth attempting.
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Why Doesn’t He Want To Get Back Together?

Another factor to consider is why in particular doesn’t he want to be in a relationship. Was it something specific that took place that ended the relationship? Or is he just burned out or no longer ‘into’ you?

It can be a good idea to roughly consider what the odds are that the break up can be mended. Look for some of the more common signs that a relationship can be fixed or that a guy would consider coming back. If none are apparently present, than the odds of getting back together are substantially lower (not always impossible but lower).

What are some other indicators that lower the likelihood of fixing the broken relationship?

  • Cheating- especially if you were the one straying
  • Is he dating other girls? Is there one in particular?
  • There are other huge compatibility problems that stem from the relationship
  • He has shown no real interest in doing anything aside from moving on with his life.

There is no ‘one size fits all’ remedy for determining if a relationship is 100% salvageable. Sometimes, the odds seem long and the ex comes back.

Other times, it looks like a good shot, but they’re just ready to move forward alone. Take a look at your own situation and determine whether or not it’s likely and if you actually want to pursue attempting to heal the broken relationship.

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Is it Even True?

Now, you should take someone at face value, if they verbally state that they ‘Don’t want you back’.

However, we also know from our lives, that people don’t always mean or stick to what they say.

Things can feel like they’re true, in the moment. But when emotions calm down, time elapses, and there is more reflection taking place…they see that they didn’t actually mean it.

If everyone actually stuck to what they meant about not wanting their partner back, there’d be a whole bunch fewer relationships, out there today.

There’s the heat of the moment. There’s reconsideration. People will say lots of things, that may or may not turn out to be accurate, in the longer run.

So, even if a guy says he doesn’t want his ex-girlfriend back, he could very well change his mind later on. Again, I’m not saying that this is the case, but it is well within the realm of possibility.

To Be Chased, One Has to Stop Chasing

One common mistake after a breakup that sooooo many people do, is being constantly trying to contact, be available, and begging their ex.

Guess what? If that worked, then literally everyone would be back with their exes. Yet, here we are with people still continually falling into the same trap.

The first step to turning things around is to go No Contact for a period of time, as mentioned above. This usually lasts for about 30 days. The purpose of following the No Contact rule is to allow the emotions to subside BUT also to get yourself to stop trying to hit an ex up all of the time.

It’s hard to make someone think that you’re desirable again, when they know that they can have you back at the drop of the dime. A certain level of scarcity makes things appear more valuable to the human mind and familiarity can have to opposite effect.

Won’t someone forget about you if you don’t remind them that you exist?

NO! I’ve gone no contact with exes and had them contact me weeks or months later…and these were girls who dumped me!

Why? Many times, life after a breakup doesn’t go so well, and down the line the realization that they may have lost something important in their lives, sets in. They can often think that the grass is greener but learn quickly this single life, ain’t always what you think it might be.

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What’s he Coming Back To?

If a breakup took place, that means that the old relationship had problems. It can also mean in this scenario, that he’s no longer feeling you like he once was.

So, even if begging him today actually worked, what has changed? Meaning, how long until the reconciled relationship fell apart again? What’s different both in terms of the relationship itself and you as a person?

How are the problems going to be addressed?

What are some things that you need to work on?

Self-improvement can be a huge step in this process. Not only in case he does eventually want to come back but also for your life, if you decided that it’s time to move on.

This doesn’t mean that you have to change everything about yourself in order to appeal to him.

However, becoming an overall more well-rounded, stable, and attractive person can do wonders for how you are perceived by him (and other potential suitors).

I remember when I first got into really good shape and how more women took notice of me.  When that happened, other girls that weren’t interested also took notice (as well as an ex). I didn’t want that particular ex back, so, it went nowhere…but the spark was reignited.

Now, this of course was all a very superficial change, but it got attention. Sometimes, that’s all it takes, but I always like to improve every aspect in my life post-breakup.

What type of relationship does he even want? What are some of the changes that you could make about yourself or the way you interact with him, that’d be useful for the relationship?

Do you even want to make those changes? If not, it may be a good idea to move on.

Get down to the root issues of the relationship. What were the negative things that you contributed towards its demise? Are those things that can be changed? Even if you make the positive changes, would he fix his issues, as well?

What’s the first move?

When trying to get back with an ex, the line of communication, must be opened up at some point. Trying to call or meet in person, can be met with rejection, or annoyance on the ex-boyfriend’s part. However, texting does offer an alternative possibility.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

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Will My Ex-Boyfriend Forget About Me?

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A very major and often times visceral concern, that many women have before and wile initiating a period of No Contact with their ex-boyfriend; is that, he will somehow forget that she exists and simply move on with his life.

The wheels in our brains start turning rapidly, after a breakup and we try and figure out every conceivable angle, in order to try and fix the broken relationship.

Perhaps, begging will bring him back into the fold. Why are we not talking to him, if we want him to come back to us?

Part of the recovery period and ultimately attempting, to get back together with someone; is about letting go of the idea that you can control the situation.

Or that, you can control another person’s actions, simply by taking the correct action yourself.

Sometimes, doing nothing for a period of time and learning to accept the possibility that it is over for good is the best course of action to take.

This isn’t to say that one cannot get back an ex-boyfriend, just that the notion that you always need to be doing something or talking to him, can lead to pushing him further away.

The Old Order is Finished

Once a breakup has occurred, the old relationship is over. Anything that arises out of the ashes of the former arrangement is essentially a new thing.

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The ties that had bound together the first incarnation of the relationship had become so strained that the entire thing collapsed.

Now, maybe it’s only a few key issues that need to be rebuilt and changed in order to have a good and functional relationship BUT fundamentally the relationship cannot be the same moving forward.

Even within the confines of a relationship, peoples needs and desires will begin to shift over time. What he once wanted, he may no longer want. The attraction that was once very strong may have evaporated.

One of the key steps to getting your ex back and having a functional relationship thereafter, is the ability to accept the real possibility that the relationship is indeed over for good. It can be a very positive and growth oriented experience, being alone for the first time in a long time.

A main reason to follow the No Contact Rule post-breakup is that it allows both parties to have a time separate from one another. This is where healing takes place and clarity about what you actually want with your life (with or without the ex) can come to light.

When emotions are running high, right after a break up, it always feels like you want him to come back. However, with some time spent apart, you may realize that those were simply false emotions.

We tend to idealize the past, and forget about the negatives a relationship brought, once the relationship has finished. As our feelings our so powerful at this stage, we don’t think about what was so fundamentally broken about the relationship, just that we want it back.

What’s interesting, is that many times when we give ourselves a period to recover from the harsh emotions, it becomes clear we don’t want the ex to come back. We learn to be more comfortable by ourselves and recognize, that it wasn’t as great of a fit, as we had idealized.

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Will He Forget Me After No Contact?

Perhaps. He won’t forget that you exist. However, he may have decided that he wants to take his life into a new direction.

Again, that’s his prerogative and why one needs to let go of the idea of being able to control people, no matter how close they once were to you.

It all depends on the unique variables of your relationship, what you want, and what he wants.

If after a period of No Contact, you still want to reconcile with him, then give it an honest try. If it fails, accept it and move on…we can’t always have everything we want.

With time, you’ll have new experiences and desires and it will heal. On the flip side, if you come to the conclusion that you don’t wish to get back together, then be sure not to rush into another relationship solely for comfort.

Rather, figure out what you want to do with your life and what it exactly is that you want from relationships moving forward.

The odds of getting back together with someone are varied based on your own situation. Sometimes, it seems doubtful that things can be worked out but with the right method and forms of communication, the couple is reconciled and free to start anew.

I’ve had it both ways, where some exes, simply stop talking to me and moved on with their lives. Others, would pop up out of the blue, years after we had broken up. I guess trying to entice me, to get back together with them…I passed on each of them.

What are Some Things that Can Impact Being Forgotten?

There are certain behaviors, which break the spell, so to speak. Meaning, an ex may not have been trying to forget, but they got pushed that way.

For instance, that endless begging, and desperate behavior. These things can really be a turn off and have people questioning why they ever dated someone in the first place.

This also extends to name calling, general meanness, or pettiness after the break up. At some point, no one wants to deal with that type of thing, and just makes the decision to move on completely.

It’s weird how people let their emotions, take them in this negative direction with an ex. Then later, they want to get back together with them. Putting themselves in a terrible position, to try from.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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