Texting has pretty much revolutionized communication over the past decade or so, with both positive and negative aspects of this transformation in technology. No longer do you have to rely on playing phone tag to get a hold of someone in order to talk to them. On the flip side, it can also make it easier to ignore or simply choose not to reply to someone, like an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. So, exactly why may an ex be choosing to ignore the person that they just broke up with or were dumped by? Well, in this post I want to explore some of the more common reasons that an ex-boyfriend may not be replying to texts that you send to them post-breakup.
It’s Become Irritating
One of the main reasons that people will stop replying to text messages is due to over-texting by the other person. At some point, a guy will get tired of having to rehash the same old fights or have his ex-girlfriend begging him to take her back. Frankly, it’s not a good look. Texting too much becomes pathetic and unattractive to the person, even when you think that it is helping your case to get them back (hint: it isn’t helping).
More is not necessarily always better and can often have the opposite effect of what you intended. Instead of looking forward to a text message from you, he will actually be repulsed and driven away from feeling like ever responding. Desperation is unattractive and by texting all the time or just too much, one can easily come off as desperate, thus less attractive in their ex’s eyes.
He’s Really Mad
Emotions are usually running pretty high during the post-breakup period and sometimes that main emotion is anger. This situation can vary from short to long-term because we are dealing with emotions. There are times in which, all it takes is a short break from one another in order for their emotional outbursts to subside. However, there are situations like when a girl cheated on her ex-boyfriend that the resentment can last for much longer, and be a very tough situation to extricate themselves from.
An ex-boyfriend being mad at you, usually isn’t that big of a deal because it mostly involves waiting on them to wear themselves out with being angry at you before they’re willing to talk again. Though, as I said, it can be more serious depending on your individual circumstances.
He’s Moving On or Trying To
An ex cutting off communication may be the result of them trying to move on with their lives on their own terms without the baggage of the old relationship. This can mean that they want to strike out on their own and be single for a while or it can mean that they are seeing other women or one specifically.
This can be the most emotionally painful of the reasons to deal with, as seeing that an ex is with someone else or no longer wants to be with you is a blow to our ego. While it isn’t an easy experience to get through, we all must come face to face with this at some point in our dating lives, and ultimately accept that time and circumstances change how things once were between two people.
There comes a time when we must learn to let go and deal with our emotional fallout from the breakup. This doesn’t mean necessarily that a broken relationship cannot be repaired eventually, but that we have to prepare ourselves for life on our own, regardless of the outcome.
Where’s the Challenge?
This is sort of related to the point about becoming annoying by texting him too much. If you’re in constant communication or chase mode with an ex-boyfriend, where is the challenge to him at getting you back in his life? If you’re always available to him, is he going to see you as a high value woman, who has lots of things going for her? Or is he going to become even less attracted to you due to his familiarity with you and the fact that he knows he can have you back at any time?
There are times when the fun, is in the chase itself. Something or someone that is widely available has less value in people’s eyes than something that is more scarce and sought after. Begging is not attractive. Treating him like his some elevated being is not attractive. Having respect for yourself as a woman is attractive.
What’s the first move?
Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.
Think about it:
- They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
- That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
- You can craft the right message to them.
- It’s a private and personal way of communication.
Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:
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