There is the ingrained belief in a lot of humans that if we simply try hard enough for something that we can make it happen. While this kind of attitude can be a good thing, it can sometimes come back to bite us. It is this mindset that we can become stuck in that won’t let us accept certain changes in our lives and know when to call it quits. In post-relationship terms, it can be quite a common idea that if we simply pursue our ex with the right type of vigor and strategy, we can surely get them back…
Reality can be quite different from our hopes for it. The fact is that many relationship cannot be repaired nor should they even be…there’s a good reason the breakup occurred. Other times, a reconciliation is possible and happens but only for a short period of time before it goes into the gutter once again. And of course, there are those success stories of lovers who separated (maybe multiple times) before addressing what ailed the relationship and got back together for good. That’s just the way life is. People change and so do their wants, desires, and circumstances. Allow yourself to feel upset or saddened by the breakup with your ex-boyfriend but not overcome by it. Also, realize that he probably isn’t in the same head space or life circumstance as he was when you first met. Sometimes, the best course to take is to simply let go and move on.
OK, so what if I still want my ex-boyfriend back? Well, yes of course. It is perfectly natural to feel that way after a breakup. It can be caused by loneliness or the belief that he is indeed your true love (whether or not this is actually true and might even seem that way in this moment). The ultimate question is whether or not you can you actually get your ex-boyfriend to come back to you?
What Were the Causes of the Break Up?
To answer the question of if he might come back to you or not, you must clearly understand your situation, and what caused the separation from one another? Did you cheat on him? Were you fighting a lot? Did you or he want different things for the relationship?
There are so many possibilities and details relevant to your own circumstance and it is highly important to figure out what those questions are and what the true answers are. There are always specific reasons for a breakup. Even if you didn’t see it coming, there had to be some underlying cause and sometimes it is simply lack of chemistry or not being the right fit for one another…it happens and you can’t beat yourself up about it.
If you can dig to the depths and find out the truth to your situation, then it can be easier to weigh the odds or if you even really want to get back together with him. Some relationships only had a few flaws and can be remedied, find out what your person mistakes or flaws were, that of the relationship, and the changes you would like to see your partner make.
Have the Changes of Life Created Too Much Separation?
Sometimes, there are complete changes a person undergoes and it no longer makes sense for them to stay in the same relationships or live the same lifestyles that they were accustom to. People grow apart and may want different things for their potential futures. Your ex-boyfriend may not be in a position to commit to a long-term relationship or vice-versa.
When these circumstances arise, a relationship may have simply run its course and the two people are no longer in the same place mentally/emotionally as one another. Some relationships don’t start out as anything more than a fling and when enough time goes by they falter because these relationships weren’t built on anything substantial.
Briefly, if you and your ex aren’t at a similar place currently or where you each want to be in the future, then the relationship will not work. Attraction might have already left and that spark is gone and that will prevent a reconciliation from taking place.
What’s the first move?
Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.
Think about it:
- They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
- That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
- You can craft the right message to them.
- It’s a private and personal way of communication.
Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:
Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.
Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.
Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:
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“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul
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