Break ups are tough to deal with under any circumstance, especially when that circumstance involves your now ex-girlfriend dating another guy. Sometimes, the new relationship starts before the breakup happens or a woman can quickly move on with their dating lives shortly after the old one has run its course. What happens, though, when you still want your ex-girlfriend back in a relationship with you and she is seeing another man? How do you go about reconciling the relationship? Can you even get her back from her new boyfriend?
What’s Your True Motivating Factor?
So, the first question that one should ask himself and be completely honest about is why do you want her back? Is it because you truly love her and want to be with her in the long run? Is it more a feeling of jealousy because she is seeing someone else and now you crave her attention like a child who has lost his favorite toy? Are you just feeling lonely after the two of you were no longer seeing each other? Is that loneliness making you think that things should be worked out when you should really move forward with your life?
This is highly important to figure out before you ever pursue any type of relationship with an ex. There is no use getting involved again in a relationship that is permanently broken and going nowhere. This is why following the No Contact Rule is such a good idea right after the break up because it gives the two people time apart from one another, to let emotions settle down, and rational decisions to be made.
Think about what you really want for your life moving forward. Let go of your ego’s jealous tendencies and stop focusing on your ex-girl and her new man. This is about discovering what YOU want! If you cannot figure this out, then the best bet is not to try to get her back from this other guy. It’ll probably just be a long frustrating experience of you chasing the way things used to be instead of plotting a new future.
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What Type of Relationship is She In?
Not all relationships following a breakup are the same. For instance, you might have tried to get past thinking about your old girlfriend by going out and hooking up with other girls. Those aren’t serious relationships and just because your ex is in an exclusive relationship doesn’t mean that it is particularly serious either. She may very well have been lonely and just wanted someone else around. She may be trying to figure out if this guy is a good fit. If she even wants to be in a serious relationship. Your ex girlfriend might just be involved in a rebound relationship, meaning it isn’t serious but she is just trying to get her bearings after getting out of a relationship with you.
If the relationship appears to be serious from your vantage point, it is best to just leave things alone and not try to interfere. You might still try to contact her and win her over at some point but don’t be petty and intentionally screw up things with her new boyfriend. That’s just a dick move.
Determining the seriousness of this relationship, will indicate how difficult of a process it is going to be to win her back. Understand, though, that even if her new relationship is just a rebound, that doesn’t mean that she will definitely want to get back together with you. Sometimes you can get an ex back and sometimes they are gone for good. That’s just something you have to accept, as a part of being in and out of relationships with women.
What is Your Specific Situation?
It is really difficult to give generalized advice when your specific situation may vary. For example, one guy’s ex may still talk to him on a regular basis, while another guy’s ex totally ignores him. One may have already done a period of no contact while the other guy may desperately text his ex daily. A key thing here is to determine what your own specific situation is like and weigh the odds on how likely it is that you can still get your ex back (if you have already though long and hard about it and still actually do want to try).
If she appears to be in a serious relationship, isn’t communicating with you very much or at all, and isn’t showing any signs that she is still interested in being with you…then it might be time to throw in the towel. At the point, it’s just a really low percentage shot, you may get her back but it’ll be very difficult and will most likely not succeed.
If you think that your odds are better or your ex is still showing some indicators of interest, then you might consider trying to pursue reconciliation. It should be helpful during this time to go No Contact with your ex (if you haven’t already done so) and then start working on improving yourself and your own life. Remember, she has to see you as a better option to meet her needs overall, in order to want to be with you versus any other man. Improve yourself in the physical sense with exercise, mentally, financially, work on any emotional issues, or any other problems that were causing trouble in the relationship, and just becoming a better man in general. The good thing about this method is that even if you don’t end up getting back together with your ex, your value with other women will have shot up, and you should be able to have options thereafter.
What’s the first move?
Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.
Think about it:
- They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
- That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
- You can craft the right message to them.
- It’s a private and personal way of communication.
Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:
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