Sometimes, after the demise of a relationship, things aren’t too bad between the former lovers and there is more clarity about reconciliation or simply moving on because emotions aren’t quite as intense and rationality is more prevalent.
However, there are other breakup situations in which one partner still wants his ex back while the other seems to have an intense dislike or yes, even hatred towards that person.
Now, this ‘hate’ may be real and one that lasts or it may be a short-term reaction to something that you did or towards the end of the partnership. What can a guy do if his ex-girlfriend really dislikes him?
Give Her Time To Cool Off
In the middle of circumstances, emotions are running red hot and things are said, that might not be meant in the long-term. Our present lives are almost always paramount to things that happened years ago.
I bet we can all think back in our lives, to things that really upset us in that specific time period. Though, now we are either indifferent towards them or simply laugh that we once cared that much.
This type of thing happens quite a lot in relationships, or when they end, because we kind of become addicted to that other person. Addicted to their presence, love, attention, etc.
These emotions can of course be intensified when the person we are upset at continuously shows up. Or interferes with our lives, instead of just letting us have time to reflect and cool off.
Your now, ex-girlfriend or wife, is probably pretty pissed at you…to the point you had to search out an article on how to deal with her hatred.
So, to start with you are already at a great disadvantage in terms of an attempt to win her back.
In order to try to get out of such a predicament, one must assess the likelihood of turning her feelings back. She needs to feel something positive towards you and the first step is letting her have time.
Going no-contact is a popular method for dealing with breakups, and for good reason, it lets emotions settle down among both parties.
Even though your impulse is to try to talk, reason with her, beg, apologize, and the like…it is actually the wrong course of action to take.
First of all, the two of you need to think about your own lives, and the very real possibility that the relationship is indeed over for good.
Secondly, the constant calling and texting, will make you seem desperate and even if you are, it makes you even more unattractive or annoying in her eyes.
Let her have space and let yourself have some too. You need time apart from one another, as it lets things calm down and become more rational.
This time can be a very lonely and trying experience and the urge to contact her must be resisted for at least a month or two.
During this time period, you should work on all aspects of your life and figure out if you should move on from her and start dating other girls (if need be). If you are honest with yourself, in most situations, the best move will be to learn to let her go and chart a new path for your romantic life.
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Think About What You Did to Piss Her Off So Much
Okay, so this lady may or may not actually hate you. Either way, what did you do to get her in this state?
If you cheated on her, then this only adds another layer of complexity, and further lowers your chance of getting her back.
Many people are not forgiving of a transgression such as that, and even if they do take you back, the dynamic of trust in the relationship is shattered.
The couple will then, need to work extensively to move past it, as an obstacle. This is a massive block to get past and it isn’t always possible. The most likely outcome is that the separation will be permanent.
Though, there are always exceptions to the most likely outcome.
Whatever it is that you have done to anger her, think about what it is, why you did it, if it’s a behavior that you seem to repeat often, and why you haven’t changed this behavior.
- Is this something that you can improve upon or even change completely?
- If you were caught with another girl, are you really ready to give up other women in your life for good?
If not, you may not be ready for a long-term committed relationship…which is fine. At least be honest with yourself, that you would really rather hookup with a bunch of women, versus being exclusive with her.
Don’t simply fall into an emotional space and demand to get her back, because your ego is hurt that she’s gone.
What are these things that you need to fix in order for her to take you seriously in the future? Figure it out and come up with a plan on how you are going to remedy these issues.
Figure Out If She Really Does Hate You
After a time apart from one another, she may have softened enough to be willing to talk to you and interact further. On the other hand, she may want nothing to do with you and is moving on with her life.
If that’s the case, it is a really good idea to respect her wishes and simply let her do what she wants. You cannot force someone to like you, and trying to keep up a pursuit of reconciliation, just becomes pathetic at some point.
People tend to just get stuck in the past, instead of charting, a better future.
However, after a period of no contact, it may still be uncertain to you whether she will be receptive or not to accepting you back into her life. Here is a post about signs that your ex may want you back.
At this stage, you may have come to the conclusion that you do indeed want to try and restart a dialogue with her.
The dialogue can usually be started through text message, just to feel out how she perceives you at this point in time. She may not respond or give short and terse answers.
A reply is better than no answer at all. From there, it is a progression of getting her to talk to you more often, hashing things out, and agreeing to meeting up with you.
What’s the first move?
If the goal is to get back together with an ex, then obviously contact with them, must be had in order to move forward. Luckily, thanks to the power of technology, the barriers to entry are much lower.
We no longer have to call and pray for an answer or try to randomly arrange a meeting with a go between.
Now, cell phones have given us the ability to send text messages. Why is this a good thing? You have all the time to craft the right message. They have all the time to respond.
Maybe they don’t want to right away, but maybe they will later. It requires little effort and there’s no face to face meeting, right off the bat. Sounds pretty ideal.
Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships. How he uses it in his program:
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