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Trying to rekindle a broken relationship, isn’t about blind desperation, to try and make things as it once was. No, it cannot be like it once was, because things have changed to the point where a breakup has occurred.

There may have been some time past the break up and now you realize, that your ex-girl is seemingly over you completely. For some fallen relationships, there are measures that can be taken, and improvements which can be made in order to help start fresh again.

However, for many other guys, it may be time to accept the fact that she isn’t going to come back and move on with your life.

In order to begin the process of trying to get an ex-girlfriend back, we must be able to at least somewhat determine what the situation is.

Also, to what extent the woman is actually done with the past, or if it is a temporary mood that can be remedied with some considerable effort.

What camp do you fall into?

The first thing that one must do is to figure out the likelihood of a reconciliation occurring. What is going on in your own unique situation which makes you think that she will come back to you (not just that you’re soooo awesome, of course).

Analyze things….is she still communicating with you? Is she seeing someone else? How long has it been? Look for some signs that your ex may want to get back together.

Need more help? Click here to receive two free reports: “3 Toxic Texts You Should NEVER Send Your EX” and a mapped plan of the “Text Your Ex Back” process.

Some potentially good signs are, if she’s not seeing someone else, and that the break up is still pretty fresh.

For instance, if the break up happened recently, a girl might say that she is done with you in the heat of the moment and later regret saying it.

I’ve had girlfriends tell me they’re done with our relationship and then come back months later, because the ‘miss me’. Things can get weird, when emotions are running high.

If, on the other hand, you are getting no signs and she does things like ignore your texts, calls, tells you to leave her alone, etc…then you seriously need to back off.

Even if you want her back AND it is actually a possibility, pressing her at this particular juncture is going to push her further away and become more spiteful towards you.

She needs space to live her life, figure things out, and explore new things without you. The same is true for you. You need to work on getting over her and starting new things in your life.

The reason for this is that, after a breakup it is a tumultuous and emotional time, and decisions on getting back together in the midst of all that, usually aren’t good ones based on rational thought.

This is why a period of No Contact, can be so effective, because it allows for both parties to have a break and get their heads on straight.

If You’re Getting No Positive Signs

If you think that there is no shot that she’ll get back together with you, then, you’re probably right. It can be brutal to have to face the truth, however, it is a necessary thing to get on with your life.

It’s really sad to see guys just give up hope because one girl (no matter how great you think she is) no longer desires a relationship with them. There are guys who for years, are in a completely sad state all because of a breakup.

Listen, the girl was there to help enhance your life NOT to make your life or make you happy….that must come from within.

Constant arguments, anger, bad attitude, not wanting to see you, not wanting to communicate with you, is seeing other guys, indifference towards you or working things out with one another, making big changes in her life…the list goes on and on.

However, these are things that are tell-tale indicators that she doesn’t want to get back together, and if all of them are present in your situation…all signs point to the end of this relationship.

I always say, to seriously plan to move on with your life without the ex, but be aware that things can change in the future. It’s just that you can’t force these changes to happen.

I think that deep down, every guy knows this on some level. It is just that in the immediate aftermath, the emotions and the change that has taken place is just too great to handle at times.

You probably didn’t plan on losing her and thought that things would keep going on as they had before.

Obviously, loneliness becomes a factor and you can often times just want her back simply so you don’t have to feel this way anymore.

It is a really bad time to have to get through, when you come to the realization that she in all likelihood doesn’t want you back in her life in the same capacity. That isn’t to say it won’t or can’t happen, but, when the odds are looking long it can be a great idea to start moving in a new direction.

This all should start to become clearer after a period of no contact and time spent reflecting on what you truly want for your life moving forward.

Does she want you?? Maybe. Do you want her? If yes, why?

Another way to look at your situation and determine what the best actions to take are to flip the question on its head and ask why YOU WANT HER BACK. This is legitimate question which needs to be answered because if it’s not the right one, then you need to move on.

• Feeling lonely is not a good reason.
• Thinking that you will be forever alone or that you currently have no other female options is not a good reason.
• Her being ‘good enough’ instead of the right one. You don’t have to settle.
• You don’t have a clear path for your future, that’s okay but don’t cling to your past, just because it’s familiar.
• You think that she will solve your personal issues or at least mask them.

Find good reasons that you would even want her back. If you cannot, then let her go. If you can, then understand that she might not want to be back together with you…which is fine, there are billions of women on this planet, so you’ll be fine eventually.

Maybe it is a situation in which you’re at fault; and even though she wanted to stay with you, she simply could not because of your transgressions.

That is a rough reality to face but one in which you’ll have to accept things, improve yourself, and try again with another woman. It’s just a time in your life where you’re have to take a loss and deal with the fact that it is most likely over for good.

The bottom line with all of this, is that, if your girlfriend is clearly displaying signs of not wanting anything to do with you then it is time to start moving on.

Obsessing or wallowing about things for a long time is counterproductive towards the possibility of getting your ex-girlfriend back anyways.

Start getting on with your life, improving yourself, dating other girls, and if you still think there is a shot, then you can try reopening the lines of communication and exploring the possibility of reconciliation.

If she isn’t open to this, then she really doesn’t want to get back in a relationship with you.

If You Still Want Her Back

Alright, so, you’ve thought about it and have decided that trying to get back together with the ex is a good idea. You want her for the right reasons and not just to have something to occupy the temporary void you feel, in the time following the breakup.

Still, we are faced with a situation in which she wants nothing to do with you, or at least is putting up the front that this is the case. The course of action that needs to be taken will be dependent on the factors, we talked about before. Like, if she’s dating someone else or is ignoring you when you text, etc.

The first step is to continue into a No Contact period for 30-60 days. So, no texting or trying to get back together with her.

During this time, use it to better yourself, and prepare for life as if she isn’t going to be coming back. Odds vary based on a whole lot of individual inputs, but both getting back together and moving forward should be prepared for.

Next, comes the initial contacting phase, which will hopefully turn into a meet up, and then an attempt at reconciliation.

How does one accomplish this? Well, the best method in the modern age, is by sending a text message. Honestly, it is quite a perfect way to reach out, because so little is involved on her end to type out a simple reply. It can be a good gauge to determine how much interest is still there.

Where do we start? I hope you had a chance to download the free report near the top of the page, about what not to text an ex. It was written by relationship expert Michael Fiore and is a part of his larger program, Text Your Ex Back.

Text Your Ex Back is a total digital program that walks you through the process of re-establishing contact and getting back together with an ex. It has been used by thousands of people successfully over the years and can be tried for 60 days with a full money back guarantee.

The nature’s of men and women are obviously very different from one another. Men, we hardly think we can ever lose and even if we do lose, we are a big believer in the come back.

Sure, I’m down 20k in blackjack but I know I can come back and at least break even! 

It is our competitive ways and our ego, which often times, won’t let us accept the reality of our situation. We don’t know when to throw in the towel.

This phenomenon is especially common in our post-breakup lives, where we just know that we can get our ex-girlfriends back, if we just try hard enough…after all we’re so awesome, right?

The truth of the matter is, many broken relationships stay broken and there is never any reconciliation of note.

Other relationships, will be mended back together and falter soon thereafter because either the underlying issues which caused the breakup were never addressed or the attraction simply isn’t there anymore.

It happens that way, things change, and so do people. Recognize that the path she was on when she met you, may not be the one she is currently walking down. If that’s the case, learn to accept it and move on.

What if I still Want Her to Come Back?

But what if I still want my ex back? Well, we mostly all want something good we once had but ultimately lost. This can stem from nostalgia, loneliness, bitterness, or even the belief that she is truly the one you want to be with.

In this moment in time, that last one may be entirely true for you. However, the final question will be can you actually get your ex-girl to get back together with you? (The first question is a matter of clearing your head, gathering perspective, and deciding whether or not you truly want to get back with her)

Need more help? Click here to receive two free reports: “3 Toxic Texts You Should NEVER Send Your EX” and a mapped plan of the “Text Your Ex Back” process.

What Were the Causes?

In order to answer the question of can you get her back, you must clear define for your situation, what the causes were that drove her away from you?

• Did you Cheat?
• Did She? (If she did, dude…give it up and move on)
• Did one of you want a deeper commitment that the other didn’t?
• Did you grow too far apart?
• Did you fight all of the time?

The list can go on and on, with possibilities, but the important thing is to find out the right questions and answers for your specific situation.

I know that sometimes a break up can blindside us…you didn’t think that she wanted to leave you, suddenly and out of the blue, she did.

The reality is that there were indeed specific reasons (that maybe you didn’t notice or even pick up on) but they were nonetheless there. Women rarely just suddenly break up with someone, it’s usually a long-time coming, so they can have a clean exit strategy.

If you can figure out some answers and truths about your circumstances, then you can make a rational assessment, of whether or not you can get your ex-girlfriend to come around and reconsider.

For example, if you cheated, then it is probably over. That’s not a guarantee, but there are many people who will refuse to accept cheating, on any grounds. They will never let go of those feelings of betrayal, so, it’s often best just to move on.

There are other circumstances that can be remedied but will require changes to be made on your part. Brainstorm ideas about what you can do to be a better partner and how the relationship can be altered for the better.

Has What’s Changed Deviated too Far?

Different breakups obviously have differing causes. Sometimes, it’s caused by minor or easily solvable problems.

There are points in time in relationships (even long-term ones) where break ups may occur but it’s usually a short-lived time apart from one another.

Other times, there are complete and wholesale shifts in the relationship or within one of the partner’s lives that shakes things up beyond repair.

This can stem from a violation of trust or even wanting other things for their future. It may be that you aren’t ready to commit, but your ex-girlfriend wants someone, who is serious about getting married in the near future or vice-versa.

In these sorts of situations, a relationship may have grown beyond its original intentions and it is probably best for the two people to go their separate ways.

A lot of relationships, seem to start as just fooling around or as hook-ups, that then generally got more serious and intense.

Eventually, if these more intense relationships weren’t built off of genuine attraction, love, and commonalities of purpose, then the foundation of the relationship is shaky at best and will probably fail.

In short, if the two of you are on different pages completely as to what you currently want for your lives and your futures, then it is going to be much more difficult to have a long-term reconciliation.

What Can You Improve On?

No matter what your situation in life, one should always strive to get better in all aspects of it. Improvement of your looks, lifestyle, mental/emotional state, and more can have a profound impact on the type and number of women that you attract in your life (even your ex).

Now, saying all of this, it doesn’t mean that if you get yourself in shape that you will get her back…BUT…improvements in all facets of your life will definitely improve your odds to add to your attractiveness and to show that you are serious about changing for the better.

After a breakup, there is a tendency for people to compare their situations to that of their ex. Women tend to notice a lot when a man makes a lot of positive changes in his life.

It shows that he isn’t wallowing in despair because she left, that he has ambition and confidence, and that he is ready to move forward with or without his ex-girlfriend.

Making these sorts of changes is ultimately the best course of action to take, as, even if she doesn’t come back there will be plenty of other women clamoring for a chance if you dramatically improve yourself.

The bottom line is, yes, it is possible to get your ex-girlfriend back. However, it is not a guarantee. The best a man can do is weight the odds, take a chance, and see what the future holds.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

• They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
• That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
• You can craft the right message to them.
• It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !!  Thank you Michael !!!

Sometimes, after the demise of a relationship, things aren’t too bad between the former lovers and there is more clarity about reconciliation or simply moving on because emotions aren’t quite as intense and rationality is more prevalent.

However, there are other breakup situations in which one partner still wants his ex back while the other seems to have an intense dislike or yes, even hatred towards that person.

Now, this ‘hate’ may be real and one that lasts or it may be a short-term reaction to something that you did or towards the end of the partnership. What can a guy do if his ex-girlfriend really dislikes him?

Give Her Time To Cool Off

In the middle of circumstances, emotions are running red hot and things are said, that might not be meant in the long-term. Our present lives are almost always paramount to things that happened years ago.

I bet we can all think back in our lives, to things that really upset us in that specific time period. Though, now we are either indifferent towards them or simply laugh that we once cared that much.

This type of thing happens quite a lot in relationships, or when they end, because we kind of become addicted to that other person. Addicted to their presence, love, attention, etc.

These emotions can of course be intensified when the person we are upset at continuously shows up. Or interferes with our lives, instead of just letting us have time to reflect and cool off.

Your now, ex-girlfriend or wife, is probably pretty pissed at you…to the point you had to search out an article on how to deal with her hatred.

So, to start with you are already at a great disadvantage in terms of an attempt to win her back.

In order to try to get out of such a predicament, one must assess the likelihood of turning her feelings back. She needs to feel something positive towards you and the first step is letting her have time.

Going no-contact is a popular method for dealing with breakups, and for good reason, it lets emotions settle down among both parties.

Even though your impulse is to try to talk, reason with her, beg, apologize, and the like…it is actually the wrong course of action to take.

First of all, the two of you need to think about your own lives, and the very real possibility that the relationship is indeed over for good.

Secondly, the constant calling and texting, will make you seem desperate and even if you are, it makes you even more unattractive or annoying in her eyes.

Let her have space and let yourself have some too. You need time apart from one another, as it lets things calm down and become more rational.

This time can be a very lonely and trying experience and the urge to contact her must be resisted for at least a month or two.

During this time period, you should work on all aspects of your life and figure out if you should move on from her and start dating other girls (if need be). If you are honest with yourself, in most situations, the best move will be to learn to let her go and chart a new path for your romantic life.

Need more help? Click here to receive two free reports: “3 Toxic Texts You Should NEVER Send Your EX” and a mapped plan of the “Text Your Ex Back” process.

Think About What You Did to Piss Her Off So Much

Okay, so this lady may or may not actually hate you. Either way, what did you do to get her in this state?

If you cheated on her, then this only adds another layer of complexity, and  further lowers your chance of getting her back.

Many people are not forgiving of a transgression such as that, and even if they do take you back, the dynamic of trust in the relationship is shattered.

The couple will then, need to work extensively to move past it, as an obstacle. This is a massive block to get past and it isn’t always possible. The most likely outcome is that the separation will be permanent.

Though, there are always exceptions to the most likely outcome.

Whatever it is that you have done to anger her, think about what it is, why you did it, if it’s a behavior that you seem to repeat often, and why you haven’t changed this behavior.

• Is this something that you can improve upon or even change completely?
• If you were caught with another girl, are you really ready to give up other women in your life for good?

If not, you may not be ready for a long-term committed relationship…which is fine. At least be honest with yourself, that you would really rather hookup with a bunch of women, versus being exclusive with her.

Don’t simply fall into an emotional space and demand to get her back, because your ego is hurt that she’s gone.

What are these things that you need to fix in order for her to take you seriously in the future? Figure it out and come up with a plan on how you are going to remedy these issues.

Figure Out If She Really Does Hate You

After a time apart from one another, she may have softened enough to be willing to talk to you and interact further. On the other hand, she may want nothing to do with you and is moving on with her life.

If that’s the case, it is a really good idea to respect her wishes and simply let her do what she wants. You cannot force someone to like you, and trying to keep up a pursuit of reconciliation, just becomes pathetic at some point.

People tend to just get stuck in the past, instead of charting, a better future.

However, after a period of no contact, it may still be uncertain to you whether she will be receptive or not to accepting you back into her life. Here is a post about signs that your ex may want you back.

At this stage, you may have come to the conclusion that you do indeed want to try and restart a dialogue with her.

The dialogue can usually be started through text message, just to feel out how she perceives you at this point in time. She may not respond or give short and terse answers.

A reply is better than no answer at all. From there, it is a progression of getting her to talk to you more often, hashing things out, and agreeing to meeting up with you.

What’s the first move?

If the goal is to get back together with an ex, then obviously contact with them, must be had in order to move forward. Luckily, thanks to the power of technology, the barriers to entry are much lower.

We no longer have to call and pray for an answer or try to randomly arrange a meeting with a go between.

Now, cell phones have given us the ability to send text messages. Why is this a good thing? You have all the time to craft the right message. They have all the time to respond.

Maybe they don’t want to right away, but maybe they will later. It requires little effort and there’s no face to face meeting, right off the bat. Sounds pretty ideal.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships. How he uses it in his program:

Hopefully, you downloaded the free reports from earlier in the post, explaining what not to text an ex when trying to get back with them. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as a basic introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. It is easily downloadable and available almost instantly, no waiting for shipping.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !!  Thank you Michael !!!