After a breakup, it is common to question the idea of love and whether or not your ex-partner still has those deep feelings towards you or if they have moved forward in their lives.
On some level, we have this urge to know the truth about where we stand with them and want to use this information as a sort of gauge to determine if we can get them back or not.
- 0.1 Separating Love from Loneliness and Ego
- 0.2 Need more help? Click here to receive two free reports: “3 Toxic Texts You Should NEVER Send Your EX” and a mapped plan of the “Text Your Ex Back” process.
- 0.3 Spending Lots of Time towards You
- 0.4 Spending Lots of Time ‘Hating’ On You
- 0.5 Romantic Interest
- 0.6 The Communication Continues with Time and is Steered Towards Talk of the Relationship
- 1 What’s the first move?
Separating Love from Loneliness and Ego
So, if you really break it down, determining if someone still loves you is a pretty complex thing, is it not? First of all, you are dealing with fresh emotions after a breakup which are very powerful in influencing people’s behavior.
For instance, your ex-girl may be calling you or texting you frequently. This could be a sign she still is in love with you. Conversely, it could be a sign that the emotions/loneliness of this time period, are too much to handle.
In that case, it isn’t that she is still wildly in love with you, it could just be that she is really confused as to what she wants. This is why No Contact is important to employ, so that both parties can gain clarity as to what they want for their futures.
Secondly, consider the feeling of love itself. A girl showing signs of interest or caring about you, may indeed be because she loves you. However, that doesn’t mean she is still in love with you.
There is quite a difference between still loving and caring for someone deeply versus having deep romantic feelings towards that person. If she broke up with you, this could very well be the case…especially if her communications are coming from a concerned friendly place and she is even starting to see other men.
Thirdly, communicating with you could just be a way to stroke her ego. She may be trying to see that you, are still in love with her and need her; in order to make her feel better about herself.
Yes, that’s petty and shallow, but there are definitely people out there who do exactly that. It’s the same kind of thing like when people talk about ‘trading up’ to someone better than their ex, so that they can gloat, rub it in, and protect their egos from encountering harm.
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Spending Lots of Time towards You
As I said, sometimes her checking up on you, is just her checking up on you. It doesn’t mean that she’s still in love with you, but she does care about you.
However, a common sign that she probably has those deep seeded feelings towards you, is communication.
The more consistent, the more emotional, and the more invasive; then the more likely it is, that she does still love you romantically. A lot of people tend to ‘lose it’ after a breakup, even if they were the one’s who initiated the split.
It’s incredibly hard on people emotionally and psychologically to be apart from the person they love, even when it’s for the best.
If a girl is constantly communicating with you, checking up on you, trying to dig up info on your personal life after the breakup…then there is a solid chance that she still loves you…even if she hates you.
This doesn’t have to be a psychotic level of keeping tabs on you. But, if she isn’t really checking for you in the months following a break up; it’s a pretty safe bet that the love isn’t there anymore. It may be, but it is a much more remote possibility.
Spending Lots of Time ‘Hating’ On You
Beyond just trying to talk to you or keeping tabs on your life, some girls will make it a point to go about telling you that they don’t like you anymore.
Not just during the initial break up, but repeatedly contacting, just to argue or start a fight.
If someone is really over you, why would they take time from their day, just to be negative? Like, when I’m over someone, I don’t even think about that girl. She’s now irrelevant to my life.
But, we have women, who actually will do this. They won’t really talk to you to say positive things or to reconcile things, but will to just be nasty.
This can be a good indicator of interest. The question is, whether or not, you want to involve yourself again with someone who behaves in this manner?
Again, sometimes it’s just loneliness or ego but if your ex come around for sex or to spend alone time with you, then that is another sign. One that she still loves you, or at least is still physically attracted to you, which is a good thing.
Sex gets complicated in the post-breakup period, because sometimes, it just happens for hormonal/emotional reasons (feeling weak/alone/aroused).
Other times, it is because there is such a strong feeling of love and attachment, towards that person.
Either way, it is a pretty indecisive act by an ex, since it is keeping one foot in the relationship and one foot out of the relationship.
If during this alone time or the time afterwards there is talk about: the relationship’s problems, getting back together, emotional expression, then of course it can be a sign that she still loves you.
Also, romantic feelings towards other people can be used to stir up jealousy, which may or may not be linked to feelings of love.
Whether, she is making it a point to show off any new guys, she is dating (and is making sure you are aware of that fact). Also, if she is butting her nose into any new relationship you may be forming, it could be a sign she still carries a torch for you. She is just showing it in a very immature way.
The Communication Continues with Time and is Steered Towards Talk of the Relationship
Time heals emotional wounds, and eventually people start to move on with their lives, after a breakup. However, some girls may continue to initiate conversations with their ex-boyfriends and then always seem to want to talk about the past and bringing up where things went wrong.
After a few months of separation, this may be a distinct sign that she is interested in reconciliation with you. After all, she has at that point had time to explore her life without your influence, and may come to the conclusion that it was a mistake to separate.
The more time apart that has elapsed and this type of behavior is still occurring, seems to be correlated with feelings of still being in love with you.
Some girls won’t just come right out and say it. Though, they may prod with certain types of questions. For instance, they are always bringing up the past, and may be genuinely open to try to fix things.
If that’s the case, then you will have to decide if that’s a possibility that you want to pursue or if you would rather not get bogged down in rehashing an old relationship.
Also, if you are the own initiating most of the conversations, she may just be replying out of courtesy. If she’s quick to respond, the better the odds, that she still likes you.
It’s just like dating or online dating, if a girl gets back to you quick, and is going out of her way to text you…it’s a big sign of attraction. Very similar rules apply here.
What’s the first move?
Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.
Think about it:
- They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
- That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
- You can craft the right message to them.
- It’s a private and personal way of communication.
Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:
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