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My Ex-Girlfriend is Now Dating my Friend

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Human relationships can be tricky. This is especially the case when several of your relationship start to overlap with one another, in a seemingly negative way. One such instance, could be when an ex-girlfriend starts suddenly dating one of your close friends or even acquaintances. Then you are not only dealing with her moving on from you but also potentially seeing your best friend. This type of situation is actually somewhat common and it can sting quite a bit and feel like a complete betrayal by those who were once very close to you. How does a man handle an ex-girlfriend starting over in such a way?

 

Deal with the Emotions First

The first thing to do, is to be able to get your emotions in check if they are currently out of control. This doesn’t mean that you can’t feel bad but you cannot let them dictate your actions either. Yes, it hurts but turning everything into a victim narrative isn’t going to help anything really. Face the facts, that she is not only seeing someone else, but she is also seeing someone who you are friends with…

Notice what type of emotions rise up when you think about it. Now, get to the roots of these feelings by asking some probing questions such as…

Why does this bother me?

Does this bother me more than if it were some random guy?

Is my ultimate happiness dependent on these two people? Don’t I dictate my happiness?

Am I doomed to loneliness now?

Aren’t there 4 billion other females on this planet, can’t I get another great one?

Am I less of a man because of this? No, how did this diminish me?

Could I be grateful for the time that I’ve spent with both people?

Can I forgive them both and eventually be happy for them?

Keep asking questions that take apart the negative narrative you currently have in your head about this situation. With time and a fresh perspective, the pain will lessen and you can not only move on but indeed feel some sort of happiness or at least ambivalence to her now dating your best friend.

It is understandable to feel betrayed when an unspoken ‘rule’ was violated by one of your friends and that your old girlfriend is now into him more than you. The status quo has been shaken up and change such as this can be confusing, scary, or just something that pisses you off. Take the time to get your emotional house in order and emerge from this stronger and have more mental clarity.

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Decide What Your Relationship Towards Them Will Be

Now, I would take some time away from either one of them, at least as much as possible. If they cut you off already, then so much the better. Don’t be afraid to go completely no contact with the both of them, in order to get your head straight and cope with this change.

With enough time, you need to decide if you will continue to be friends with them or to no longer have any contact with them ever again. Neither one is a bad option if that is what you want, just don’t carry baggage about it and be bitter. If you’re going to still be close with them, then be so. If not, let them go and live your separate lives. Holding a grudge is only going to serve to continually drag up old emotions and things cannot move forward amicably at that point.

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Get Your Own Life Back on Track

She’s moved on. Now, you must do the same completely. You cannot have one foot in the door hoping that she will come back or worrying about their new relationship…you must carry on in a new direction.

This means:

  • dating
  • new business opportunities
  • personal development
  • traveling
  • meeting new friends
  • new career path

Whatever it is you feel like you should start doing, take advantage of your new found freedom. After all, being single ain’t so bad. Actually, it can be a lot of fun and a great growth opportunity, now that you’re no longer stuck in the rut of a long term relationship. Perspective dictates one’s response to a situation…

“I can’t believe she is seeing someone else” becomes “Thank you, sweetie. I’ve been wanting to sleep with other girls for the longest time and now I can”

Don’t give up on things, don’t obsess over this. Allow yourself to feel negatively about it for a time and then let these feelings go. You have a whole life to life outside of the confines of previous relationships and things don’t stop moving forward just because things aren’t the same as they were in the past (hint: they never stay the same).

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Should I Take My Ex Back After they Cheated?

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A common cause of breakups is infidelity. One partner steps out of the bounds of the agreed upon relationship in order to get sex, attention, or whatever else from a third party. Honestly, cheating is probably the worst cause of the end of a relationship, as it usually produces the most hurt for the person who got cheated on. However, when some time passes after finding out about the infidelity, your ex might come crawling back to you and be begging for you to get together with them again. Your resolve might be really tough at first and you can resist the initial advances but some doubt starts to creep in and you may begin to wonder if you should indeed accept them back into your life as a lover.

 

What’s the Right Answer?

My policy has always been that I will not accept fixing things between me and a girl who cheats. That’s it. I can forgive and quickly let it go, but unless we had some sort of open relationship agreement, cheating is immediate grounds for the termination of a relationship.

Now, having said that, this may not be the correct answer for your particular situation. Some couples can work through something like that, however, I think that for most people the mistrust would linger on in some part, even after they worked things out.

 

What to Consider

In the vast majority of cases, you shouldn’t take back someone who cheats on you. I would strongly urge you to deal with the loneliness you may feel in the short term and move on from the wreckage of that relationship into a new phase of your life. Having said that, maybe you’re hell bent on making it work, but I would take some of the following things into consideration first.

Can You Realistically Get Past This?

It takes much more than simply forgiving a person, you also have to let it go, and not let it interfere with your future relationship. Understand that: the relationship, you once had is now over. So, if you do decide to take back a cheating ex, it’s like starting from scratch. Does them cheating really bother you? Is it going to continue to hinder your ability to trust them in the future? Are you just hanging on because they are currently your best option for a relationship or are they truly the right person? Would someone who is truly ‘right’ for you, even cheat on you in the first place? If all of this, is too much to handle and cope with then the correct course would be to move on.

What Really Has Changed?

It isn’t enough for someone to say that they’ll change their behavior. Hell, everyone says they’ll change bad habits on New Years’ also and we all know how well that works out for the majority of them. Knowing them as you do, what do you honestly think they are going to change about themselves in order to make things work? You have to be honest with yourself about what you want for your future and if this person is even capable of fulfilling what you want in a relationship.

It won’t be a pretty sight if a few months down the line, your partner starts feeling comfortable with their place in your life and then starts to resort right back to the same habits and infidelities which caused the split in the first place.

Is This More About Dependency than Your Self-Respect?

We can really get attached to the person we are in a relationship with and that’s what makes being in love so great. Sometimes though, that attachment becomes a dependency with drug like effects on our lives, moods, and behaviors. Post-breakup can be a really confusing time, even if it’s clear that they hurt you badly. You may really feel that you want them back or that you actually need them in your life but this can often just be a fear of change in your life and a complete dependency on that person.

If they cheated on you, do they honestly respect you? I mean, on some levels I’m sure they do, but do they respect you completely? Do you respect yourself? Do you love yourself? If you are wishy washy on any of these questions then I would once again say, move on with your life. You need to be able to love yourself and recognize what you want and deserve in a relationship. Dependency and addiction is not a recipe for a healthy relationship, especially when someone can clearly violate the trust of the other.

Should you get back together with an ex that cheated on you? I say no and hope that you consider your situation carefully.

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Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back with Text Messages?

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With the advent of mobile technology, communication among people has never been easier. This can be a really good thing for the most part but like anything else in life it can have its downsides. For one, text message technology can make it very easy to come off as desperate or needy when talking to the opposite sex, this a big problem, especially when it is your ex-girlfriend you are trying to communicate with. If it is easy to seem desperate through text messaging, could one avoid that pathetic label, and use text to get an ex-girlfriend back? Sure, but it would have to be done right and be understood that it might not work at all.

Is it the Right Time to Text Your Ex?

One of the biggest issues in terms of rekindling a relationship is not letting enough time pass before attempting to get things start up again. Time is important because it allows the dust to settle and for both parties to move on somewhat with their lives to explore what they truly want. When you first break up with someone, the emotion can be overpowering and can override any logic or clarity you may have about the situation. Meaning, you may feel like you want her back now and truly believe that, but with time and proper perspective you will realize that she wasn’t really the best choice for your life moving forward.

People can be great in our lives during certain periods of time and then be completely wrong as we live, learn, and grow as people. That’s perfectly natural and yes it can be scary to let someone go when you don’t really know where you’re heading yourself. However, it is sometimes necessary to change and clinging on to a relationship can have bad consequences in the long term.

So, before any type of plan can be put in place to try and get an ex back, one must first come to terms with their emotions and gain clarity on their life. One must be sure without clouded judgment that getting the ex-girlfriend in your life again is exactly what you really want to do. This is why taking time to heal and doing a period of no contact is so important.

Here are some posts to help figure things out:

Ex Back or Move On Main Page

How to Deal with Loneliness Post-Breakup

Getting Over a Relationship

 

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“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

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