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Will My Ex-Boyfriend Forget About Me?

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A very major and often times visceral concern, that many women have before and wile initiating a period of No Contact with their ex-boyfriend; is that, he will somehow forget that she exists and simply move on with his life.

The wheels in our brains start turning rapidly, after a breakup and we try and figure out every conceivable angle, in order to try and fix the broken relationship.

Perhaps, begging will bring him back into the fold. Why are we not talking to him, if we want him to come back to us?

Part of the recovery period and ultimately attempting, to get back together with someone; is about letting go of the idea that you can control the situation.

Or that, you can control another person’s actions, simply by taking the correct action yourself.

Sometimes, doing nothing for a period of time and learning to accept the possibility that it is over for good is the best course of action to take.

This isn’t to say that one cannot get back an ex-boyfriend, just that the notion that you always need to be doing something or talking to him, can lead to pushing him further away.

The Old Order is Finished

Once a breakup has occurred, the old relationship is over. Anything that arises out of the ashes of the former arrangement is essentially a new thing.

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The ties that had bound together the first incarnation of the relationship had become so strained that the entire thing collapsed.

Now, maybe it’s only a few key issues that need to be rebuilt and changed in order to have a good and functional relationship BUT fundamentally the relationship cannot be the same moving forward.

Even within the confines of a relationship, peoples needs and desires will begin to shift over time. What he once wanted, he may no longer want. The attraction that was once very strong may have evaporated.

One of the key steps to getting your ex back and having a functional relationship thereafter, is the ability to accept the real possibility that the relationship is indeed over for good. It can be a very positive and growth oriented experience, being alone for the first time in a long time.

A main reason to follow the No Contact Rule post-breakup is that it allows both parties to have a time separate from one another. This is where healing takes place and clarity about what you actually want with your life (with or without the ex) can come to light.

When emotions are running high, right after a break up, it always feels like you want him to come back. However, with some time spent apart, you may realize that those were simply false emotions.

We tend to idealize the past, and forget about the negatives a relationship brought, once the relationship has finished. As our feelings our so powerful at this stage, we don’t think about what was so fundamentally broken about the relationship, just that we want it back.

What’s interesting, is that many times when we give ourselves a period to recover from the harsh emotions, it becomes clear we don’t want the ex to come back. We learn to be more comfortable by ourselves and recognize, that it wasn’t as great of a fit, as we had idealized.

It gets lonely sometimes

It gets lonely sometimes

Will He Forget Me After No Contact?

Perhaps. He won’t forget that you exist. However, he may have decided that he wants to take his life into a new direction.

Again, that’s his prerogative and why one needs to let go of the idea of being able to control people, no matter how close they once were to you.

It all depends on the unique variables of your relationship, what you want, and what he wants.

If after a period of No Contact, you still want to reconcile with him, then give it an honest try. If it fails, accept it and move on…we can’t always have everything we want.

With time, you’ll have new experiences and desires and it will heal. On the flip side, if you come to the conclusion that you don’t wish to get back together, then be sure not to rush into another relationship solely for comfort.

Rather, figure out what you want to do with your life and what it exactly is that you want from relationships moving forward.

The odds of getting back together with someone are varied based on your own situation. Sometimes, it seems doubtful that things can be worked out but with the right method and forms of communication, the couple is reconciled and free to start anew.

I’ve had it both ways, where some exes, simply stop talking to me and moved on with their lives. Others, would pop up out of the blue, years after we had broken up. I guess trying to entice me, to get back together with them…I passed on each of them.

What are Some Things that Can Impact Being Forgotten?

There are certain behaviors, which break the spell, so to speak. Meaning, an ex may not have been trying to forget, but they got pushed that way.

For instance, that endless begging, and desperate behavior. These things can really be a turn off and have people questioning why they ever dated someone in the first place.

This also extends to name calling, general meanness, or pettiness after the break up. At some point, no one wants to deal with that type of thing, and just makes the decision to move on completely.

It’s weird how people let their emotions, take them in this negative direction with an ex. Then later, they want to get back together with them. Putting themselves in a terrible position, to try from.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

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How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back when He’s Ignoring You

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The post-break up period can be quite a minefield of confusion to traverse. Both sides, once close, now have their own interests in mind and emotions are running extremely high. It’s almost inevitable, it seems, that one party will cut off communication with the other.

This can be pretty confusing or quite a let down. Especially when. you still want to reconcile with an ex-boyfriend but he doesn’t seem to want to communicate with you on any level. At least, at the moment.

Why won’t he talk all of the sudden? Why is he completely ignoring my calls, texts, etc? Well, as with anything else in life, there seems to be a multitude of answers possible. However, I want to point out some potential causes and solutions for dealing with such a total drop off in communication.

Why is He Ignoring Me?

Alrighty then,  let’s get down to some reasons why an ex-boyfriend may be ignoring you, during the post-breakup period.

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He’s Moved On

Don’t freak out. This isn’t always the case. However, there are times when one side in a break up will get it in their mind, that the best course of action to take is to move on entirely.

I’ve personally done this before with one girl that I was dating. Despite the fact that it was still painful, I rejected her advances to see me, after she had dumped me.

My reasoning for this was that she was only trying to use me for sex and comfort. This was after she had broken up with me, and that I didn’t feel like being used.

Why should I allow you to have whatever you want, when you basically told me, that I was no longer good enough to be with you?

I rejected and then ignored her solely on principle. I wasn’t really ready to move forward with anyone else. But I forced myself to be alone, and resisted getting drawn back in, with promises of easy sex and soothing of the post-break up pain.

Now, a man can also ‘move on’, by dating new women. This doesn’t always have to be serious, sometimes, he is just dating to help himself cope with the new situation but then other times he is genuinely trying to move forward with his life. He wants to head in a new direction.

‘Moving on’ can be sort of a misnomer, as it is often more like distracting oneself from the powerful emotions that are stirred up at the end of a relationship. It can go either way, but it is one distinct possibility of why an ex-boyfriend would begin to ignore.

It’s often times, less about moving on, and just exploring what life is like without having a girlfriend around. We get so used to one another’s company, that existence can feel pretty darn different, from what we’re used to now. As such, to cope with this change, we might start seeing other women.

He’s Annoyed

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This usually happens when relationships end. One side will message, call, or try to meet in person the other side wayyyy tooo much. Pestering, generally isn’t a great strategy.

It’s not that he is either currently for or against the possibility of getting back together. It’s just the constant bombardment of communication is grating his nerves.

There’s just something inherently unattractive about a person who makes themselves much too available and almost completely subservient. It completely destroys the allure of someone.

Getting five texts in a row from a girl, without me responding, is at best an annoyance and at worst a little bit frightening.

It’s counter intuitive, when caught up in the emotional turmoil that is happening after a break up; but the more you chase and text and beg, the more people tend to move further away from you.

I’ve seen it first hand from both sides. Me, writing long messages to an ex, totally sure in my mind that it’d work and she’d come back. When in reality, it just made me stink of desperation, which is especially unattractive to women.

On the flip side, I’ve had girls do it to me, and it really does make me lose interest very fast.

Cut out the heavy communication, if you’re currently doing so. I know there is a tendency to want to try and fix everything ASAP but understand that you can’t really and it’s actually counterproductive. T

his is why the period of No Contact, can be so damn effective. It prevents us from making dumb mistakes that hurt our chances at reconciliation. Secondly, it gives us an opportunity to move past the most addictive and compulsive behaviors.

It’s Apart of His Strategy

The No Contact Rule has become more popular recently and so an ex-boyfriend may have cut off communication as a strategy. No Contact can be used either to help get over someone or conversely to help try to get someone back.

I’m not saying that this is the most likely scenario, it’s almost certainly not, BUT it is a possible motive for why he is ignoring.

No Contact provides people with space and allows for clarity to take hold in one’s life without interference from the person that they just broke up with.

There’s a chance that his feelings are still quite strong, with that, he will want to do a bout of no contact in order to lessen the strength of those feelings.

Oh, and there is still the chance, he is using this strategy to help lure you back. Don’t count on this being the case, BUT, it is still possible somewhat.

He’s Really Upset

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Another distinct possibility of why an ex could be ignoring someone is that he’s simply pissed off. Lying, cheating, or some other reason that made this particular break up extra difficult to deal with could be spurring on a strong desire not to have any communication within the near future.

If something really bad happened to cause the break up, then it is to be expected that a guy would be hurt and simply be in no mood to talk or even acknowledge his ex-girlfriend.

Especially, in the cheating scenario, that would be a complete non-starter for me. I know many other guys, who wouldn’t allow anything to be fixed, with someone who did that to them.

Not all is lost, though, a guy being upset may eventually pass. He could then be open to communication but just needs time and space to cool off and gather his bearings.

Then again, he may be so angry and hurt that he shuts down completely and wants nothing to do with the old relationship ever.

Anger can be short-lived or last for a longer time, but people generally get over it. They will ultimately forgive. Now, this makes no guarantee about getting back together or whatever else. But, it’s not usually more than a passing phase.

What To Do?

The exact motives are hard to ascertain as there are so many possibilities as to why a guy may stop communicating after a break up.  The remedy for such a situation? Fall back and then attempt to reengage later.

What does this mean? It means going into No Contact on your end. Don’t try to force him to talk when he doesn’t want to, which will only serve to push him further away. With space and time, comes clarity about what each individual wants.

Take the time period of No Contact to figure out exactly what you want for your life. You may come to find that with time alone and when the heavy emotions come under control that you actually don’t want your ex-boyfriend back.

You may want to go in a completely different direction in your life whether that be: career wise, education, romantically, or even where in the world you live.

Time apart is about healing and getting yourself in a better place to make sound decisions about your future with or without him. In fact, one should always prepare for the more likely scenario that the relationship is finished…because it is. Any reconciliation that comes to pass, is essentially a new relationship that needs to be fundamentally different from the one that failed. All the former fights and problems need to be solved.

No Contact is usually a period of 30-60 days. At that point in time, the situation becomes clearer and what one wants for themselves is pretty obvious.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to meet in person, right away.
  • The message doesn’t have to be responded to on the same day or even week. They can decide to respond, at a later date.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people figure out a path forward with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Obviously, success cannot be guaranteed by anyone, but you do have 60 days to buy and try out, Mr. Fiore’s methods. If not, it can be returned, for your money back.

If you are sure about wanting to try to get back with your ex… please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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