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Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Even If It Seems Hopelessly Impossible

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There are times after a break up, when one still feels as though, they want their ex-boyfriend back. They want him to realize how special the relationship was. They no longer want to be alone. However, it also feels as if there is little hope of getting back together and doing so is not only a daunting task, it seems utterly impossible to pull off.

What can one do in such a situation? The hopelessness of not being able to get an ex back is a powerful emotion but is it actually real? Are the odds really that bad?

In this post, I want to write a bit about how to approach these seemingly impossible situations and explore how one can try to go about reconciling with an old boyfriend. Understand going into it, that nothing is ever guaranteed, so prepare for a more likely outcome.

Why do you want him back?

The first question I would ask about anyone’s given situation, is why exactly, do you still want him back? Especially when, it seems like such a long shot.

It’s certainly understandable on an emotional level, as to why one would still crave for their ex-boyfriend, to come back into their lives. After all, love can be like a drug addiction that is tough to shake, and the aftermath can make life not feel quite the same.

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However, long-term longing for reconciliation can also be a sign; that one has not moved forward or is in a stagnant position in their lives.

The longing for an ex can mask general dissatisfaction with how things are going in life and give us something to work towards, even when it isn’t the best choice for us.

Instead of accepting the change in our lives and learning what we actually want from our life, we chase what we used to have. This can be true, even when getting back together with our old love would be a disaster.

We still feel as though we want it, even though, we logically understand that it would go poorly.

Think deeply about why you actually want to get back together and what it would mean in reality. If the relationship ended, it was broken in some way, and perhaps really major ways.

What has changed? Would he change? Would you change in this new version of the relationship? Do you actually want him back or is it more of a general sense of loneliness?

In the past, I’ve had some breakups in which I desperately wanted my ex-girlfriend back. Like, a visceral feeling of hurt which I felt, that only she could solve by coming back into the fold.

However, it was ultimately an illusion. I was really unhappy with myself and the way things were panning out.

My ex-girlfriends’ leaving was just a wake up call to problems that I didn’t want to face or even recognize existed, sort of like having a band-aid ripped off. I could no longer hide from life in the safe confines of my relationships, and as such, had to come to terms alone.

This is one of the reasons that I recommend a period of healing and no contact. It helps with gaining mental clarity about what you actually want deep down and not simply what you think will make you feel better in the moment.

It isn’t always a good idea to restart a relationship and we cannot fully make that judgment until we are far enough away from the wreckage of the break up.

Often times, one can arrive at the truth that they really don’t want to get back together with their ex-boyfriend.

That, they were romanticizing the relationship and ignoring all of the bad parts that came with it. That, their boyfriend really wasn’t all that great of a match to begin with.

Dig deep and discover what you truly want before even attempting to reconcile things with him. You have the time, to think things through, and make a solid decision about which way to go with this.

Why is the situation hopeless?

So, why exactly does this break up seem impossible to fix? What happened in the relationship that was so bad that it cannot be redeemed?

One should work on determining roughly what the odds are that he will actually consider fixing the relationship. Look for some of the obvious signs that he could come back, under the right circumstances. If none exist, then it would point to the unlikely event of getting back together.

What are some other indicators that lower the likelihood of fixing the broken relationship?

  • Cheating- especially if you were the culprit
  • Is he dating other girls? Especially if it seems serious with one in particular
  • There are other huge problems that stem from the relationship
  • He has shown no real interest in doing anything but moving on

Now, there are times when the situation seems hopeless but can be remedied. Then, there are other times when it actually seems like the odds are in your favor but things still don’t work out.

We are dealing with complex variables specific to you particular relationship and his current feelings and desires, which may no longer align with being together.

Take an inventory of pros and cons to help determine if the situation really is impossible or if there does appear to be some light at the end of the tunnel.

Accept the most likely outcome

OK. Once one has determined that they do indeed still want their ex back and have come to terms with the probabilities…there needs to be an acceptance of the most likely outcome.

Meaning, one should begin to live their lives (preparing mentally and plotting a way forward) as if he is never getting back together with them.

Yep, there is no guarantee that a relationship can be fixed. Because of this, learning to accept that the relationship is over, is a solid first step to take.

Regardless if it works or not, one would still be prepared and not simply left out in the cold with no clue as to what to do next.

This doesn’t mean that one has to give up pursuing reconciliation. It simply means, that there is no delusion about the fact that the odds might not be so great.

This means true acceptance and ultimately letting go if things aren’t turning around or heading in the way you wanted.

It also means that, if you realize at any point that getting back with your ex-boyfriend isn’t the right move, you stop the pursuit even when it leaves you single for a period of time.

What’s the first move?

When trying to rekindle a broken relationship, contact must be re-established at some point, so things can be built again. In the past, it was more difficult to get a hold of someone and actually get them to pay attention. Now with technology, a simple text message can go a long way to breaking down the barriers in communication.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.
  • It’s way less intrusive, so, less chance of an outright rejection or ignore.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Towards the top of the page, there was a link to get two free PDFs, on an overall strategy and things one should not text their ex. Pretty useful to have, when trying to get back together. Both of these are a sample look at Michael Fiore’s program, “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

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Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Chances of Getting My Ex-Girlfriend Back?

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If you still want to get back together with an ex-girlfriend after a break up, one will inevitably end up surveying the landscape, and trying to calculate the odds. What is the chance that she will want to restart our broken relationship?

While never an exact science, we are dealing with the whims of human beings after all, there are signs and obstacles which serve as indicators as to whether or not a reconciliation might happen.

Again, even if the odds seem to point out that there is a decent chance of getting back together happening, there is no guarantee that it will actually take place in reality.

So, while there are an insane number of variables that are unique to each person’s situation, I thought’d I’d cover some aspects that may help or hinder the chance of getting an ex-girlfriend to come back into the fold.

Her Relationship Goals

The first aspect of this that I want to cover, is seeing things from her perspective. Now, she might not have any clue what she wants in terms of relationships after a breakup.

However, there is also a good chance that she has a very good idea, and whether or not you fit into those plans can obviously impact the odds of reconciliation.

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She may be ready for a serious relationship, but felt that perhaps, you weren’t the one she wanted to settle down with for the long-term.

Conversely, maybe your relationship was too serious for her, and she felt stuck within it. Thus, she moves on and begins casually dating other guys.

I would say that in most cases if she wants a longer-term deal and felt like you weren’t mature enough or whatever other reason; then, there is a better chance of getting back together than in the latter example.

After all, one can grow and mature as a person. But it’s hard to convince someone who no longer wants something serious that they should get back into the confines of exclusivity.

Again, there are no hard and fast laws on this sort of thing and it’s strictly up to her own internal thoughts and feelings. However, I will say anecdotally, that age seems to be a factor in making these sorts of decisions.

I have gone out with a lot of women in the past few years, without being tied down in anything serious, and have noticed patterns of behavior based on women’s age range.

Women I’ve dated below the age of 25 were into much more casual relationships or strictly hookups.

Meanwhile, 25-30 tended to be much more all in for a long-term and often potential marriage situation.

Then, the mid-30s women, usually had just gotten out of long-term relationships or marriages, and were all about fun within the confines of a casual relationship.

Many women start to feel the pressure of getting married and starting a family in their late 20s. As such, they might throw overboard their current boyfriend if they feel like, he isn’t up to the job of starting a family with her.

The type of romantic or non-romantic situation that she currently wants can have a huge impact on the chances of getting back together with her. Thus, the reconciliation plan may be scuttled before it even has an opportunity to get started.

This can play a major role in the decision or effectively none at all. It is a good idea to think about what the scenario was, in your own case, and what sort of things your ex had been saying about the relationship prior.

Who Initiated?

Another common factor in potential reconciliation is the question of who ended the relationship. If it was her, then, the odds are significantly lower. If it was you, then, she might not have expected the relationship to end nor did she particularly want it to.

If it was a mutual decision, then, it’s kind of murky and could go either way with about equal odds. Again, it will all depend on the unique variables of your relationship.

When women break up with you, they usually have an exit strategy planned in advance, and might even have back up guys lined up for when the relationship ends. If she broke up with you, the chances aren’t nearly as good, but it’s not impossible either.

If you broke up with her, it can be much easier usually to get things started once again. Assuming, that things didn’t turn super ugly during the aftermath of things ending between you. In some cases, all bets are off, because all bridges have been burned.

Factors involved in the Break Up

There are certain issues that may be too much to overcome. For instance, if you cheated on her. She’s probably not going to want to get back together after that. And if she cheated, then, dude…why would you want her back? Move on!

Other major issues could be too much fighting, disagreements about the direction of the relationship, etc.

If you guys couldn’t get along very often, then, things are going to require a major overhaul before a new relationship can even begin.

Take stock of what happened and what the problems of the relationship were. Were there major red flags? If so, how would they be remedied? Can they even be?

It’s pretty amazing, how many people, overlook these basic aspects. They become so consumed with trying to ‘win’ someone back, that they fail to recognize, massive underlying problems of the relationship.

The relationship was ‘broken’ for a reason or many reasons. If it wasn’t, it’d still be continuing on, as a prosperous partnership. Take an honest look at these issues and assess, if they are even worth fixing, to salvage this thing.

Current Communication Levels

Are the two of you speaking? Has she blocked your number or on Facebook? Are you constantly hitting her up and she’s ignoring you?

If she’s more receptive to speaking to you, then your odds are higher that there is still some interest in fixing things, on her part.

Now, if the two of you have a child or some other circumstance that requires you to have to talk to one another, then that doesn’t really count.

The more the lines of communication have been severed, the deeper the hole you have to climb your way out of. A period of no contact may be necessary, to help create some space, and help prevent you from making dumb mistakes before trying to move forward with fixing the broken relationship.

Also, sometimes sex happens after break ups between you and your ex. Usually, this is a positive sign, and that her emotions towards you are still strong. However, if it was a one time thing, she may have just been feeling lonely that night and may not want any part of getting back together.

Yes, it can be quite difficult at times, to gauge whether or not a sign is revealing. As it can also be a one off event, without much significance.

Time and Relationship Status

The longer it has been since the break up, the more difficult it can become to get back together. If it’s something like a year or more, then the odds aren’t so hot.

In fact, one would have to undergo some serious self-improvement and changes to even re-spark any interest from an ex. It can be done, it’s just not a highly likely proposition, and it would take a good deal of time.

People change over time and the things that were right for them at one point in their lives, no longer are. I always recommend and practice doing so in my own life, that I prepare myself to move forward as if the break up is permanent, even if I do end up getting back together with someone.

Emotionally, it just seems to be the right move. I experience other girls and set a new path for my life, regardless whether or not I can or even want to get her back.

What is her current relationship status? What is yours? If you’re both seeing other people, then, things have run their course. A new relationship between the two of you would have to be started from scratch, at some point in the future. If she is with someone else and it seems pretty serious, she’s probably not going to leave that to get back together.

Putting it All Together

The beauty of relationships is how individualized they are. It’s also the reason why, there is no guarantee of getting an ex back, or that’d it even work out in the long run.

On the other hand, there is also a lot of overlap within human relationships, and patterns do begin to emerge which can give you some picture as to what the chances are an ex-girlfriend can be brought back into the fold.

Take the time, to figure out your own situation, and what the pros and cons are. Also, take the time to think deeply as to what you actually want for your life and even if you truly want her back.

Sometimes, we just get so emotionally clouded that it seems like we want an ex-girlfriend back…but we are in fact, just feeling lonely or without a clear path forward. Down the line, we will move on but in the thick of things it can be really confusing.

What’s the first move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. Text messaging can be an ideal place to start, because it is so non-intrusive, and not necessarily an overt attempt at trying to win someone back.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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