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My Ex-Girlfriend is Stringing Me Along. Wat Do?

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The post-breakup period can already be a really confusing time. This becomes especially true, when you’re dealing with an ex-girlfriend who is seemingly ready to get back with you one minute and then acting as cold as ice the next. After a few times of experiencing this, we being to notice the behavioral pattern, and ask ourselves…am I being strung along here? What the hell does she actually want? Why would she be doing this to me? As aggravating as this experience can be, it can be dealt with, let’s explore what’s going on.

 

Why String Someone Along?

Women are always going to have their own individual reasons for doing this, but there are some old reliable reasons in this scenario.

First, she might be doing this because she really doesn’t know what she wants. If you know your ex-girlfriend is emotionally immature or indecisive, would this really be such a shocker? Of course not. Her lack of clarity doesn’t have to mean that you have to buy into it as well.

She might be trying to feel things out with you and doesn’t want to fully invest in pursuing a reconciliation, just yet. Sometimes, she’s wanting to go that route, and other times not.

Another reason could be that she’s trying to keep her options open for as long as possible. She could very well have other men that she’s seeing or collecting dates like trading cards. In this case, she wants to wait for her best option, which may or may not be you.

Third, she’s being really spiteful. She wants to do the hot and cold routine in order to get hopes up of getting back together, only to pull the rug from underneath you, once you’ve invested.

As you can see, there are some legitimate reasons that bode well for a future together. But there are also reasons to be cautious, as there is a possibility that a woman can be using her ex for her own benefit.

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What’s the Reaction to Being Strung Along?

My approach has always been that of not playing the game. Meaning, that if I’m being strung along, I cut the damn string.

I’m not going to be playing her game, whether it be out of her own confusion or genuine manipulation. I don’t particularly care about the reasoning, only the end result, which is me having to put up with someone stringing me along and generating confusion.


I do this by making myself scarcely available. Since she is no longer my girlfriend, she has no reasonable expectation of my time and energy. If she wants my time and energy, then, we should have never broken up and she should attempt to reconcile without all of the confusion.

If she is just trying to manipulate me, it becomes extremely difficult for her to do so, without my constant need to give in to seeing and spending time with her.

It’s basically an attitude of: ‘shit or get off of the pot’. Stop playing games with me and give me clarity about our situation. In the past, I have just straight up asked them, what they wanted and basically refused any real interaction until it was all laid out.

I’ll also add, that if any of these girls were seeing other guys (that I knew for sure of), it was basically a non-starter with me. I’m not being option 1B or 2 or 3 or whatever.

Don’t accept nonsense just to be in a relationship or make those post-breakup feelings, not hurt so much. Be willing to walk away. After all, the relationship ended, and the obligation really is no longer there. If you’re not getting what you want and feel manipulated, why continue to pursue her at all? There are billions of other options on the planet.

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How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back If He Wants to Be Just Friends

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The friend zone usually comes about before there is any relationship to be had. One party has feelings for the other person but that person, doesn’t have any romantic or sexual interest towards the first. Sometimes, after a break up happens a guy may put his ex-girlfriend in the friend zone or state that he ‘just wants to be friends’ now. How such a situation actually turns out depends on your feelings towards them and if one’s ex-boyfriend actually wants to be friends with you or is trying to spare feelings. In this post, I want to get into what it means when an ex wants to be friends and if there is a clear path to get out of the friend zone and back into a romantic place.

 

We Should Just Be Friends

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So, you and this guy have had a chat or phone conversation in which he told you all about how you two are just ‘friends’ now. Now, in such a scenario, there is a good chance that you accepted these terms…even if in your mind you really didn’t want or mean it. On your side, you still want him back as a boyfriend and are only open to a friendship, because that seems like the only route to your end goal. Let’s be clear and honest about the situation, you are still attracted to and have romantic feelings towards this guy. There isn’t a pure and unspoiled friendship vibe going on here. You can still care about him but the friendship aspect of this relationship is only a part of the puzzle.

From his side, he is bringing up being friends so that he can either let you down without hurting your feelings too bad or he wants to keep you around in case he changes his mind or wants to set up another type of arrangement with you. Being stuck in the friend zone means that you will be giving away your time and attention in exchange for something you don’t actually want (the illusion of true friendship).

However, in the case that you do wish to move on, date other guys, and genuinely try to have a friendship with an ex…by all means, go for it. But, any residual attraction or emotional baggage is going to make this a difficult proposition. You cannot really ever be ‘just friends’ with this level of emotional/sexual attachment, as it just creates conflict.

Need more help? Click here to receive two free reports: “3 Toxic Texts You Should NEVER Send Your EX” and a mapped plan of the “Text Your Ex Back” process.

 

Getting Out of the Friend Zone

Is it possible to get out of the friend zone and get back together with an ex? Yes, it is. Is it easy or usually a short process? Nope.

Before trying to recover from the friend zone, one should consider, if being together with this guy is something that is actually wanted. Many times we feel like we want to get back together, when in reality, it’s just left over emotions clouding our judgment.

When we reflect on our thoughts and feelings, we can come to the conclusion, that we are really just trying to fill in the emptiness that we feel. We don’t actually want to restart the relationship, we’re just dealing with really powerful emotions.

In this case, I would suggest that moving on and focusing on oneself is the best path to choose. With time and a strong focus on personal growth, one can indeed get past the turmoil of a break up.

If you are hellbent on getting out of the friend zone and trying to get back together with this guy, however, just know that while it can be done, it is never a guarantee to work. Ask yourself if you really want to spend time chasing something that may never be and even if it comes to fruition, it won’t be the same as it once was. Luckily, this decision doesn’t have to be made on the spot, as the best path to follow whether moving on from or trying to get out of the friend zone with your ex-boyfriend is the same…at least initially.

 

No Contact

If getting out of the friend zone is the plan, why would somebody want to get dragged deeper into it? How can one get out of the friend zone, if they have to constantly be involved in ‘friendly’, non-romantic activities with the other person? Being just friends, sets up certain behavioral barriers, that makes it difficult to cross and truly turn things to being ‘romantic’ again.

I’ve already discussed the No Contact Rule in length, here. As such, I’m not going to delve into it in this article. However, I will say that you will need to go roughly a month of no contact, so that you can even begin to start crawling out of the friend zone. No, he won’t forget about you, unless you truly are forgettable. Besides, the relationship has already ended, so it’s already been lost. Any new relationship, is just that, new. Meaning, it basically starts from scratch, and the situation has to be rebuilt on the ashes of the old relationship.

 

What to Do During No Contact?

This time period should be about a hyper focus on one’s self and not the other person. This is a time period to decompress from the break up and really figure out what you want from your life moving forward. Time away helps to get one’s mind away from the other person and bring more clarity.

Anything that can be done to better yourself or your life circumstances should be the focus here. That can include: working on physical health, mental health, job related opportunities, and even dating. Now, getting involved in a serious relationship probably isn’t a great idea, given the situation but seeing what’s out there might be beneficial.

 

What’s the next move?

Obviously, in order to attempt to re-start a relationship, contact has to be reestablished with your ex. With all of the technology we have at our disposal today, perhaps, text messaging is the most logical choice to reach out to an ex once again.

Think about it:

  • They don’t have to agree to meet you face to face right away.
  • That message can sit on their phone until they are ready to respond. More time equals a greater chance.
  • You can craft the right message to them.
  • It’s a private and personal way of communication.

Here is relationship expert Michael Fiore. explaining texts as a form of communication for relationships:

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Mr. Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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My Ex-Girlfriend Says She Doesn’t Miss Me at All

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The immediate aftermath of a breakup can be a confusing time. Emotions are up and down. It can feel like a piece of you is missing. Also, things can come to light, that make you question your memories of what the relationship exactly was. Many times this is in the form of finding out about cheating. However, it can come in the form of learning that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t miss you at all…or so she says. How can that be? This can be a jarring notion, especially when you still miss her quite a lot on your end. What’s the deal with this? Is it even true? How can one handle coming to terms with such a scenario?

 

Is It Even True?

Perhaps.

Telling their ex-boyfriend that they don’t miss them, can either be a factual statement, a weaponized barb, or a mixture of both.

Determining which it is can depend greatly on the context in which it was said, the manner which it was delivered, and the nature of the female you’re dealing with. For instance, if you know that your ex has a bit of pettiness in her personality, there’s a good chance that it’s designed to inflict pain (especially if the two of you were arguing at the time).

It’s my contention, that if a girl truly doesn’t miss me, she would have no need to tell me that. I mean, when I don’t care about an ex-girlfriend, they literally don’t cross my mind unless prompted by something else. I don’t think about them, I have no reason to speak to them, and the whole relationship is just a memory.

 

Need more help? Click here to receive two free reports: “3 Toxic Texts You Should NEVER Send Your EX” and a mapped plan of the “Text Your Ex Back” process.

Essentially, why would I need to tell them that I don’t miss them in the slightest?

Then again, some chicks are just assholes and feel the need to take shots at an ex, for some perceived notion of ‘vengeance’.

Which One is It?

In the cases in which it doesn’t seem obvious one way or another, if she really means what she said or is just trying to hurt with words, it’s best not to try and wrack your brain too much. Sometimes, you really cannot definitively tell what her intent was behind the words. Hell, she might be emotional, and not even know herself.

I tend to take the statement at face value.

She doesn’t miss me, at least in that moment. If it proves otherwise, that will all be revealed over time by how she behaves towards me. Meaning, if she really doesn’t miss me at all, she will presumably fade from my life. On the other hand, if she was bull shitting me, she will probably try to get my attention and contact me in the future.

With one girl that I dated almost ten years ago, she was sort of all over the map with her feelings towards me. First, she broke up with me (I was really close to dumping her but she beat me to the punch). Then, she would randomly text me for sex in the following months. Next, she told me that she didn’t miss me (which was fine, since I was dating other girls).

What happened after she told me that she didn’t miss me? Things got quiet for quite a while, until she messaged me on Facebook, out of the blue. She would message me on there, every few years, and even asked me out. She said that she wanted us to go out ‘just as friends’…we were never really friends to begin with, though.

I think that the last message she sent was about two years ago. That’s a funny thing, to have someone not miss me, try and get back into my life years after the fact. Especially when there’s no significance or attachment on my end.

Anyways, there is the truism, that you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. Often times, a break up occurs and she might foresee big plans in her future. She thinks that she can get a better guy to commit to her. She thinks that she’s going to land some amazing job. And then…none of that happens, which can lead to them reevaluating their past and their ex-boyfriends. Sometimes, they find this out within a few months of the breakup.

How to Respond

Does she miss your or not? Since there is no way to know for sure, let go of the question.

Turn inward and focus on yourself, your own development, and pursue all of the things that makes your life as an individual better.

Guys get too caught up on trying to figure out all of the answers (even when there isn’t one to be had), which just becomes and obsession and time waster.

Time will usually reveal what exactly is taking place. If a girl genuinely misses you, her feelings will generally revert to the mean. Meaning, that if she told you that in anger and she secretly does miss you, then she will make it clearer once she settles down.

To me, the question really becomes, “Do I even want to be with someone who tries to hurt me with their words?” Rather than, does she miss me?

I would begin to explore what life is like without her in my life. Take the steps to move on from them and generally focus on myself.

 

Still Want an Ex-Back?

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Michael Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”. He also recommends a period of no contact with an ex and also shows how to both work through the time apart and how to decide what to do next. If you want further help working out things or really do want to make things work with an ex, this is something you’ll want to check out.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

If you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex, please click the image below to watch a free video and try “Text Your Ex Back” with a full 60 day money back guarantee:

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