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How To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back If She’s Moved On

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There are many different circumstances one could find themselves in following the demise of a relationship. Sometimes, your ex-girlfriend is still single for a long period of time after the break up or she has gone through a series of rebounds that weren’t very serious because she needed to get through the loneliness. However, there are times in which an ex-girlfriend will quickly move on to another serious relationship or simply divest themselves emotionally from the previous relationship and want to move on with their lives.

In the latter type of situation, it can be extremely difficult to try to get back together with someone and most of the time simply not even worth trying to do. When she moves on, it can be a definite thing, and once she’s confident in her decision there is very little that you can say or do to help to change her mind. The reality of the situation is that she may indeed be gone for good and if it has gotten to this point that it is very likely that she is.

It is important that you start to see things how they really are and stop the notions in your head that everything will all be fine if you just do one or two things to make the relationship happen again. If you’re relationship has ended, then it definitely had problems, simple as that.

Thinking that things will be the same if you were to get back together is a form of delusion on your part. Even if you were to get back together with her, things wouldn’t be the same, the relationship would have to evolve into a new form in order to have a chance of succeeding.  Things change and people do too. If she has changed enough to move on from the relationship, then that is a good sign that you should probably do the same. At least enough to learn how to live on your own again before trying to jump start the failed relationship.

Moving on, for your part, means learning to accept things as they are now and to learn to be happy on your own. Learn to cope with the loneliness and figure out ways to grow as a person, so that you can make a sound decision about what route you want to follow, either moving on completely or actually trying to make things work with her. These addictive feelings you may have for her are not healthy and are not a valid reason to try and get back together. They are simply a form of dependency.

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There is a great deal of fear and uncertainty following a break up. This can be especially true if you see your ex-girlfriend moving on while you are still pining for her everyday and haven’t really done anything with your life since she left. There may be a fear that if you do not get her back that you will end up alone. That doesn’t have to be the case, there are plenty of other girls out there who are available but you also need to be strong enough to learn how to be happy on your won. not to be stuck in the past or chasing after your ex who may no longer be interested in you.

Your ex may now be seeing another guy and you want to win her over to you because you have some fear that he may be a better man than you. A lot of this kind of stuff is simply ego. It comes with not being able to accept life and the changes that come along with it, you can’t stand losing because you perceive that your value as a man is lowered. Basically equating getting your ex-girlfriend back with proving your self worth. This is a very unhealthy way to look at things and can lead you to do things such as meddling in her current relationship or trying to drive a wedge between them. Stop being desperate. Learn to be on your own and be happy on your own before deciding if you should try to spark things anew with her.

One question you definitely need to answer before deciding if you want to get back together with an ex is, what has really changed? If you and her were to get back together today, why would it work out this time? What has been resolved in the underlying issues of the relationship? If the answer is not much in the way of positive changes, then you’re chasing a false dream. Going back to a girl simply because you now miss her because she is seeing someone else or your options are limited is pretty damn lazy and a waste of time. The two of you may be on completely divergent paths now and going back simply is not an option for you. Most relationships don’t work out for the rest of your life, but each one is helpful in learning from and applying those lessons to future relationships with women.

If You Really Still Want Her Back…

There are some guys who have actually been through the whole process of healing and growing as a person and still feel that they want their ex-girlfriend back in their lives. If that is the case and you feel like you’re in a really good spot emotionally and in your life then you may consider using a program to help you get things going again with your ex.

Hopefully, you took the opportunity to download the two free reports towards the top of the post, that help to lay out some of the dos and don’ts of texting your ex. Both of which were written by Michael Fiore as an introduction to his “Text Your Ex Back”.

Text Your Ex Back is a full mp3 audio and ebook program which has helped thousands of people reignite things with their exes by following Michael Fiore’s advice. He has been on a number of shows including Rachel Ray’s to discuss his methods for romance.

Here is what some of Text Your Ex Back’s users had to say about their success with the program:

“Not only did this program change my relationship with what i feel is the most incredible and unique girl i have met so far in my life, but you actually helped me change my life for the better. Ever thought this could be a life changing event for someone? Not to mention how inexpensive and how user friendly the program is, no amount of money or words could express how truly grateful i am for what you have done for me as a man. And for that i would just like to say…Thank You!”- Matthew R.

“My ex was almost begging me to take him back” I love your program ! It’s so much worth it !! My ex came to me yesterday and was almost begging me to take him back !!! Just as you said it !! :D Thank you Michael !!!

“Hi Mike. Good program. The 30 days of no contact was crucial – helped work through myself, thoughts and feelings and work on my physical side – mind body and spirit. The “I like myself” exercise is extremely insightful as it reminds ourselves of who we are. My ex and I are giving at another go – small steps but all great journeys start with small steps. Talk was the game opener – being in our 50’s we did more talking face to face than texting but adapted some of the principles in this program. Thanks for helping me find myself first so I could have the opportunity to find my ex.”- Paul

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How to Forget About Your Ex: Getting Over it and Moving On

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Many of the feelings that come with the ending of a long-term relationship are negative, in part, because there is a fear of one’s old way of life collapsing and that things will never be the same again. It seems like a really scary thing, that life will no longer carry on as it has before, and that uncertainty will rule the day. The thing about it is, life is always changing. and people will come in and out of your life. That’s not a bad thing, it’s just the way the life of a human being is. If your an older reader of this website, I’m sure you can remember dating someone in high school or college and how when the two of you broke up it seemed like a really big deal. Nowadays, you probably don’t ever think about them and if you do it surely isn’t as emotional as it once was for you.

Younger readers, probably don’t have the same experience in dealing with break ups of relationships. This experience and flood of emotion is a new thing for you. I know how tough it can be the first time something like this happens in your life. However, billions of other people throughout time have successfully gotten through it, so you can indeed get through it also.

What Can One Do?

As I have moved my way through life and experience my own heartbreak, I have come to learn how to get over my feelings for my ex-girlfriends and keep pushing myself forward. It isn’t always an easy or even a pleasant process to have to get through but I always feel that at the end, it is a rewarding one. After all, nothing worth having, isn’t a difficult thing to attain. The highs of love wouldn’t be as high if they weren’t accompanied by the lowest of lows after a relationship has ended.

I have found out over the years that a lot of the addictive qualities of my past relationships were spurred on my a sort of co-dependency with that girl. Meaning, I was always searching for that next ‘high’ and expecting her to validate my feelings and self-worth, just as I had done for her. I have found out the hard way that if I am not happy with myself first, that, I can never be happy because of her. She CANNOT make me happy, a relationship is there to simply enhance my life experience and perhaps to grow along with one another. Searching for happiness through relationship after relationship is ultimately a pointless endeavor.

Another thing that I always like to do for some period of time following a relationship is applying the No Contact Rule. I do this, to simply give myself some breathing room without their influence over my emotions. The more I am away from them after a break up the faster I can return to my rational state of mind. No Contact forces me to be on my own and learn how to function in my life without my ex-girlfriend. I wrote about this process in detail, here.

Time is a very important factor after a break up. A break up is a loss, emotionally. It definitely takes the wind out of your sails for quite a while. What I always allow myself to do after a break up is to essentially grieve its loss for some time. I allow myself to feel these emotions and not try to cover them up or ignore it. I pull myself together in order to get through the work day or whatever else I might have going on but when I get home I can be by myself and truly let myself feel the loss. This process doesn’t go on forever, but, it is important to get emotions out in a healthy way.

How I transition out of those negative feelings, is by slowly adding more and more positive activities into my life. Exercising, reading, meditation, or whatever else that lets me have positive emotions, I will use to replace me moping around the house or crying about the break up. This reinforces good behavioral patterns and allows me to feel positive feelings so that I am not just stuck in some dark place for an extended period of time.

I also use this time post-breakup, to alter my feeling towards my now ex-girlfriend. I stop myself from idealizing the relationship and only focusing on what I thought were the good times between us. I adopt a realism, that our relationship had enough problems that it needed to end when it did and even if we were to re-kindle things, it would have to grow into a different relationship or fail again. I will eventually remind myself that, there are indeed other girls worth pursuing, and eventually start dating again in due time.

I know that I have to accept the fact that the way I may feel is not the way she might feel. Meaning, if I still want a relationship with her, I must accept the fact that she might simply just want to move on with her life without me. She may still love me but not want to be with me. I must accept that things have indeed changed to the extent that the same relationship together is no longer possible. Significant changes would have to be made for us to even think about being together in the future.

The best way to move on from an ex after a relationship is to focus on yourself and your life. Growth is an important aspect of moving on because you can’t get past your emotions if you’re constantly revisiting the past. Allow yourself to feel the negative emotions, find ways to experience positive emotions, find new ways to grow and experience life, and accept that things are no longer the same and your paths may not cross again. Here are some other helpful posts:

Stop Being Needy Post-Break Up

How to Cope with Loneliness

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